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New Life-New Outlook-New Me

2012-01-27T10:12:00.000-06:00

I never thought of myself as the person who does the sympathetic shoulder to perfection. But I had a friend tell me to stick to doing the sad, heavy-hearted stuff that I’m so good at. I didn’t quite know how in the world to take that comment. I mean, who wants to be known for making people cry or making people think about stuff they’d rather forget? I didn’t set out to build that kind of legacy. But, I suppose God had other plans for me.

Well lately, I’ve been living a totally different life, getting completely new and sometimes fresh perspective, and rethinking some of my prior decisions, goals, etc. I find much more comedy in things than I ever did before. I’m realizing how circular the world is and what that means for my own joy, peace and contentment. And now, I can understand how to calm my mind and heart when tragedy strikes or hard times persist. For one thing, the sun keeps rising and setting. The days are going to pass and the struggles will change. Life truly goes on. And anyway, if I could stop it, it wouldn’t be in the middle of a painful episode. And since I know that whatever comes will also go, I learn to enjoy every aspect of this brilliantly created masterpiece that God left for me to navigate. He has the book of my life with Him, already written, already edited, already a bestseller. He’s read it so thoroughly that He knows every word of it by heart. Of course, I’m only on chapter 36 and like a soap opera character, I don’t know how this thing will end for me yet. But, I know who knows and I trust Him implicitly. Embracing a new me fully without question.

Pleasure Reads

2012-01-25T07:50:00.000-06:00

Reading is probably one of my favorite hobbies, but then sometimes it feels like a task. I suppose it gets like that when I have to read for edits versus reading for pleasure. I finally got my tally for last year and I'm so very proud to announce that I read approximately 43 books in 2011. So you know I have to take it up a notch for 2012. I think my goal may be 50 books, but with all the writing and deadlines I have for this year, I'll be lucky to get in 10 pleasure reads.

I will post a list of last year's reads within the coming week so that you can see what kind of material has warped me. ROTFL!

Don't Be So Rigid

2012-01-08T11:16:00.000-06:00

Sometimes when we feel worn down, mentally exhausted, slightly dejected, those are signs that there is something foreign in our lives that need to be purged out. For sure, purging hurts because normally we need to release something we want to keep. But part of maturity is learning that God knows what's best for all of creation, and He sees much further than we do. It's better to listen to what He says and tune in to the subtle cues He gives us when change is coming.

I'm learning to be more flexible. I figured out that the rigidity that I've always had has also been the cause of a lot of my pain. I'm resistant to change at times and it only ends up making things worse. So, I'm still on the path of learning. Amen to that!

Prophetic Appreciation

2011-12-01T11:27:00.001-06:00

There are very few things in the world as amazing as the gifts of the Spirit. Nearly every Christian has read about the 9 spiritual gifts given by the Holy Spirit for the edification of the Body of Christ. Yet, those gifts are still misunderstood and abused, some more than others. But of them all, the prophetic is perhaps the most abused, the most overused and the most misunderstood. Somehow, the prophetic went from always 100 percent accurate in the Old Testament to seemingly less than 10 percent accurate today. We make every excuse in the book when a prophetic utterance is off, but ultimately it comes down to the prophet. This is why when we find someone who truly speaks the words of God, we must appreciate them and be grateful to God for actually speaking through them to us as the Body of Christ.
One such man of God is Apostle K.C. Sparks. Since our meeting in 2008, I’ve watched his ministry very closely and have learned a great deal. The biggest part of his ministry is healing and restoration, but almost always through prophetic utterance. In our first meeting, his first prayer for me was for my books, businesses and the family I so desire to have. Having that prophetic guidance from God changed my life permanently. It gave me some foundation and direction in a time when I had an abundance of ideas, but no sure plan or path determined to bring them into fruition.
Apostle Sparks gave me the Word of God and told me in May 2008 that I’d get international coverage for my bestseller and that he saw movies and television spots. Months laters, I met some officials who were interested in making my book into a small, independent feature film and that was the first fulfillment of what God had spoken through Apostle Sparks. Since then, we’ve become friends and co-laborers in the Kingdom of God.
Like many reading this article, I’ve experienced the pain of having false prophets sell me dreams, but I’ve also experienced the blessing of having God truly speak over my life through another human being. Meeting real prophets who truly serve God is an honor and a privilege. When God sent Apostle Sparks into my life, I learned how to distinguish true men and women of God, learned to hear from God on a deeper, more personal level, and learned how to keep myself covered under the blood of Christ when it comes to idle words and word curses, the biggest enemy to the prophetic.
This is my salute to a man of God who walks, talks and teaches the truth, someone who has forever altered my understanding of the magnificent love and graciousness of God. To Apostle Kenneth C. Sparks, keep speaking the oracles of God because hungry souls are listening!

Chances

2011-11-08T16:03:00.001-06:00

This is a little off the mainline for me, but today I wanted to talk about chances. This isn't biblical law, but personal musing. I hope you can enjoy it and maybe lend some much needed feedback.

It is true that most people get multiple chances at most aspects of life, but that isn't always the case. Sometimes opportunity knocks only once. The prepared open and reap the benefits. The rest spend months or years or a lifetime pondering how life could be different if only.

Sometimes, when I have nothing else to do... okay, who am I kidding? I always have something else to do. But sometimes, I get into a reflective mood and I begin to think about my choices and how my life could be different if I'd done something differently in the past. Each day, I make more choices, all of them leading me somewhere, and often not quite where I intended. But no matter what happens, I can never undo prior decisions. I can only correct what I can and move on. That is what life has taught me... we all get chances.

Each time we make good decisions, we have the chance to learn about the benefits of good decision-making abilities. Each time we make bad decisions and live through it, we learn what to avoid and how to make better decisions. We always have a chance to learn as long as we are alive. Age is not a deterrent. Socioeconomic status, family ties and history are merely road bumps. They cannot keep you from living and learning if that is what you choose to do. Take every chance afforded to you to better your life, not by the material and temporary only, but emotionally and spiritually as well. I know I am. I made a decision to stop fretting over what is and what isn't in my life. I choose now to learn what I can by the things that come and the things that go.

Valuing Yourself - The Abundant Life

2011-09-01T10:23:00.000-05:00

Hard work teaches us how to value various things in life. The harder something is to accomplish, the prouder we are when we actually accomplish it. The more costly something was to obtain, the harder we work to keep it in great condition.

Unfortunately, we understand that concept with everything but self. We often don't know how to truly value ourselves. We judge ourselves so harshly on things that don't amount to a hill of beans anyway. We look at our appearance, our degrees or lack thereof, our pasts, our pains, our flaws and we find ourselves feeling like less than dirt and accepting mistreatment from others because we don't think we deserve better.

If this is you, here's what I would like for you to do right now: go to the nearest mirror and look yourself in the eye for 20 seconds without speaking. Then, point your finger at yourself and tell yourself that you deserve everything Christ died for you to have including that abundant life, that life that includes more than we can ask or imagine. Do it now and live it daily!

Good and Bad Days Interwoven

2011-08-08T13:07:00.002-05:00

There are good days and bad, but it takes them both for us to learn what we must to survive the bad and truly appreciate the good. I'm grateful for those who have been beside me through my recent health issues and scares, for those who have prayed, fasted and encouraged me. GOD is still a healer and His work is never done.

Recently, I've began to think about how beautiful this world really is from a whole different perspective. In fact, I've come to appreciate humanity, though for so many years I was bitter against it, even my own. I wanted to be flawless, perfect, yet the more I sought out perfection, the more miserably I failed at it. It was a tricky situation. But God was teaching me that humanity, flaws and all, is yet beautiful. That a hideous green thread when interwoven with a soft purple, a deep blue and a muted red is somehow breath-taking... Enjoy your good days but also realize that your bad days are part of the reason you have something to enjoy. Learn how to see that silver lining always and life will lose its sting and frustrations. All that will be left is a better, more content, happier you!

LOVE for the UNFAITHFUL

2011-07-11T08:16:00.002-05:00

Just last night, through the grace God has given my husband, He spoke so clearly to me. I am grateful and now I share with you a most personal moment.

In the time I've been with my husband and even before we married, we've endured infidelity. That's just honesty. Am I proud of it? No! Do I condone it? Heck no! But real talk is just that. What's more, the majority of it has been on my part. I had to stop and shake my head right there for a moment. Nevertheless, we continued to grow in the midst of the worst imaginable trials.

Last night, God showed me LOVE more clearly than I've ever seen it. He showed me a picture of a Bentley broken down on side of the road. The owner was upset and had to call for help. As angry or embarrassed or hurt as he was, he didn't even once think of getting another car. He loved his Bentley. He then showed me a woman crying because her child was on drugs. As hard as it was to fathom, she couldn't turn her back on her child. She loved him. Then he showed me my husband's heart. All the pain, the anguish and tears, frustration, but in the middle of all that is this man holding out his hand to me telling me that he choose to be like God. He choose to love me anyway. He choose to keep on loving me. The tears started and I didn't know if they would ever stop. And I could feel my hubby's heart which made me feel like I was drowning. And yet, I hadn't even considered who I'd really sinned against, my Father.

Then GOD hit me with that third knock out blow. He said, I am Father of all creation. I never created anything I didn't love. You said you wanted to see my heart, feel my pain, understand me better. Feel some of the pain of loving someone who do not love you back, loving someone who refuses to put you first, who doesn't appreciate all that you've given, who wants everything you are willing to give but not from you. The pain is suffocating! It's hard to breathe through it. It's hard to think through it. It's hard to fathom staying there and taking that abuse, right? But I love and choose to keep loving you no matter your flaws, imperfections or choices. The thought of having to destroy anything I made makes my heart melt in despair. I created you in my image but very few of you ever truly understand what that means. You don't consider my feelings. You don't consider my love. You, YOU have a GOD to pray to. You have me. I, well, I am alone and all that happens in creation stops right here at my door. I am GOD and there is none other beside me. I have no GOD to pray to. And when I created a way for those I love to alleviate my pain, I find that most still won't lift a finger to help ease my pain. Yet, I still will not turn my back on you, not any of you.

So I asked in my spirit what could I do to ease God's pain. I mean, I've caused more than my fair share of it. And the answer to evangelism hit me like a ton of bricks. Each time a soul is won over to God, each time the shackles of sin are broken off someone, each time we walk in love toward someone who doesn't necessarily deserve it, each time we overcome some deeply engrafted issue, each time we are obedient simply because our Father has commanded, all of those things are like plucking thorns out of God's body. Each of them brings Him a measure of relief, gives Him a joy that overshadows all the pain. He smiles. He pokes His chest out. His countenance is brightened. GOD is REAL! His love is real. While our emotions are unstable and prone to be toyed with, His are not. He is always emotionally, physically, spiritually attached and invested. He chooses to be that way. That's no easy task!

I could go on, but some of what I want to say is much too much for online writing and the timing is not yet. So let me make my point. God's love does not take an accounting of the wrong done to it. He knows the wrong, but it doesn't change anything as it concerns His decision to be our greatest lover. It bears all things. There is nothing in this life or the next that will ever separate you from the love of God. We try to understand this through our carnal mind but the concept is much too big for that. It was love that created, is love that sustains, will be love that redeems. And for those who miss it altogether, it will be love (with streaming tears) that administer punishment. And this is where the saying "This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you" comes from.

With my deepest love,

Lacresha Hayes

www.lacreshahayes.com

(originally posted to my Facebook profile on April 11, 2011)

LOOK WHO'S GETTING A BILLBOARD!

2011-06-02T15:45:00.001-05:00

So, I found out that I'm definitely getting a billboard and this is the second or third design, my favorite thus far. This is just the tentative design. More information, including the radio station and online site for listening will be coming very soon! I'm so excited at what GOD is doing in my life. From the books, to the screenplays and the speaking engagements, it looks as if 2012 is going to be my best year yet.

Stay tuned in for more information and upcoming programs, tours and books. You can find out more at my website, Officially Lacresha Hayes. You may also follow me on my Facebook Books by Lacresha Hayes page or my inspirational Officially Lacresha Hayes page. God bless you all!

Lesson Learned

2011-05-12T12:18:00.001-05:00

I had a recent conversation with someone very close to me. It was interesting to compare apples and oranges with him, to discuss the differences in our beliefs and opinions. And in the middle of discussing the importance of others disappointing us, I learned something after it flew out of my own mouth.

While it is important to realize people aren't perfect, not even ourselves, it is equally important to inspire each other onward, forward into a greater person. Most times, we can honestly say we don't tell others we love them, are proud of them and see their progress often enough. And while we should do the right thing because it is right, a pat on the back never hurt anyone. People need that recognition as fuel for the next battle. They need your support, your love and your words. They need it most when they are failing the most, not after they have already made it through the difficult parts. Lesson learned!

Times of Reflection

2011-05-04T10:05:00.000-05:00

I think about the past 30 years of my life. I think about how much I've learned, how much I've grown, how much I've suffered, how often I've loved, how often I was loved, the quality of my life and the beautiful people who have been in it. And I reflect over all that God has done. I am grateful!

Reflections empower us to push past hard times and circumstances. Times of reflection are necessary so that we don't get lost in translation, so that we don't lose ourselves, so that we don't lose sight of what is important.

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

2011-05-02T08:13:00.002-05:00

It's amazing how easy it is to lose focus on what's important in life by spending too much time with the small things. I remember when the book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, came out. It was a sensation! Everyone was buying, reading and quoting it all over the place.

Well today, I want to remind you that those words, that book, the sentiment is still true today. We need to learn how to conserve our energy for that things that matter, release the things that don't and definitely how to discern the difference.

Prayer for Storm Victims

2011-04-29T08:23:00.001-05:00

During these recent storms, many people lost loved ones, homes, jobs and even a whole hospital in Alabama was reported with total destruction. My heart goes out to them, and especially a close friend who lost her husband to an automobile accident due to a falling tree.

Times like these remind us that we are not invincible people. Nor are we sovereign masters over our own destinies. In fact, there are times when even the strongest of us are leveled and rendered completely helpless. We are forced to look on without the ability to change anything as "storms" tear our lives apart. But one thing we can be assured of is that storms don't last forever and at some point, the sun is going to definitely shine again.

Know that my family and I are in prayer for and with you all. God bless you all!

Breakfast Menu

2011-04-12T07:56:00.000-05:00

What's on the menu?

Pancakes, eggs, bacon and sausage with coffee and orange juice. Bible reading and morning encouragement. What do you do for your morning wake ups? Whatever it is, keep God as a major part of it, the center of it!

Sharing of The Body (We're Talking Sex)

2011-04-09T12:18:00.002-05:00

I've always been shy about discussing my sexuality and certain things about my life as it pertains to my sexual experiences. I'm sure that sounds totally far-fetched when my claim to fame is my book written about the sexual abuse I've suffered in my life. (See my Rape of Innocence blog.) Nevertheless, it isn't the most comfortable topic in the world for me. However, I find myself wanting to share something with everyone today.

In the time I've spent preaching, 10 full years, a whole decade, I've encountered thousands of women. I've met and ministered to the bashful type, the prudish type and the bold, illicit ones. No matter where the women fell within those categories, there was always one question I got more than any other: "How does God expect us to honestly choose a mate before having sex?" Women, much like men, worry about sexual compatibility and chemistry. Many just can't see a marriage being happy or successful without those aspects being "right".

Well, I've been married three times. Never have I taken God's advice/commandment seriously. Marriage without at least a sample was far beyond my ability to comprehend too. I can't say the absolute emotional benefits of doing it God's way (though simple obedience should be reason enough), but I can tell you the dangers of doing it my way, our way. The biggest danger is marrying someone whom you may never legally marry. Sex continues to tie you to someone, and then someone else, and someone else and someone else. Pretty soon, you are so many people that you lose yourself. You become practically unable to be satisfied with any one man, no matter how great he may be, or any one woman no matter how great she may be. And I am absolutely convinced that our sexual escapades before marriage with whomever we had them with is a BIG factor in how soon we give up in our marriages once we get them.

Wrestling with one person can be tiring enough. The weight of wrestling with your spouse and all the other illegitimate marriages they bring in with them can be unbearable for anyone. Two people adjusting to one another and working to become one is difficult enough. When you multiply that number by the lovers each of them had, becoming one seems like an impossibility.

On the outskirts of my third marriage, I can 100 percent say that there is no such thing as harmless, casual sex. Speaking as a woman who has had more lovers than she would ever want to tell anyone, variety isn't the spice of life. Peace with God and the pleasure of one lover, no matter how inexperienced or mundane he/she may be, is the spice of life and is life itself. Bedroom skills can be taught/learned. Good is relative to the person doing the judging. So don't buy into the hype of a sex-crazed media. Be mindful of what you do with your body and who you share it with. You only get one!

Career Update

2011-04-06T07:05:00.000-05:00

I spoke with an agent a short while ago. It seems she believes I'd be a great candidate for talk radio and wants to get me prepared for possible television talk shows. She truly is passionate about the message God has given me. That's priceless, a true and wonderful gift from God to show me that my work isn't done just yet. I love HIM y'all. And I am oh so humbled by the opportunities which continue to knock at the doors of my life.

Several other publishers, even though I have my own publishing house (Lanico Media House), have expressed interest in my idea of doing a 12 book series about strong female leads who champion certain virtues that are all but forgotten in this era and in popular media. The 12 books will focus on love, commitment, forgiveness, sobriety, celibacy, entrepreneurship, sacrifice, strength in illness, hope, faith, submission and humility. More details to be given as the plots are hashed out.

This year will see the release of several books, e-book and print and will set the pace for audio books which will be available next year. It's time to step it up. With the thousands of hits my website gets weekly, and the exponential increase of my popularity on social networks, I believe I want to position myself to be more proactive in my career.

Flowers for My Son, Montario Hampton

2011-03-30T10:40:00.000-05:00

In my wildest dreams, I never really thought back in 1990 that I'd have a son who would grow up to be so wonderful. In fact, I was such a different person back in those days that I didn't think I was capable of raising a son who is so grounded and stable. So today's post is dedicated to my baby, Montario Donnell Hampton. Even though he's grown and gone from home, he will never be anything other than my baby in my heart and never will he leave that special place reserved for him.

I just want to thank God for giving Tario a mind to be serious about relationship with God, a mind to want marriage rather than variety like most young men, and a mind to work and earn his way through life rather than steal, lie and manipulate. He's so much better than I was at the age of 20. He has strengths that I cannot completely explain and I know that God alone is to be praised. Sometimes, we don't edify our children enough and they walk around uncertain of their value. But while it is called today, I am going to give my son his flowers and let him know that he is my blessed gift from God. I am so grateful! I love you, son!

The Wonderful Creation Called YOU

2011-03-15T09:52:00.001-05:00

Every person, even the least intelligent person you know, is given a remarkable amount of talent in some area or another. We all have special traits that differentiate us from everyone else. How strange that many of us live mediocre lives because we never take the time to find our own genius. We sit on the back burner of life watching others live and be joyful and content, maximizing their moments and wonder how we got to be so unfortunate. Well, I'm here to give you a single tip.

The tip is to stop looking at how fortunate or unfortunate you believe others to be and begin looking at and admiring the beauty of the creation called YOU. You do matter. You do count. You too are great. You are somebody. No, our flesh amounts to less than a burnt bean. But that royal bloodline that we are born into through Christ make us world rulers in ways we have yet to discover. Enjoy being you!

Fully Armed and Confident

2011-03-13T07:19:00.001-05:00

For some people, it's hard to embrace the dualities of life. There is good and evil. There is right and wrong. There is day and night. Okay, so you get the point. Well, we are the same. We have both the nature of God, being created in His image and the constant pull toward sin, being housed in the flesh. The battle that is waged in this body continues from birth to death and any battle lasting that long will wear you down. We need ammunition.

Salvation equips us for eternity. Faith gives us a shield. Love rejuvenates us. Understanding pulls us through the valleys of doubt and decision. We have to know that there is no rest for a person who really loves God, not in this life in this flesh. The only rest to be had is in God and that requires your faith and total trust and dependence upon God. If you can trust Him to have your best interests at heart, then you will forever be in the eye of the storm, the calmest place, beholding the bad but being unaffected by it. If you can't or won't trust Him fully, you'll find misery, weariness and bitterness around every other corner in this life.

Choose to trust God and when you feel yourself slipping, confess that to Him. Confessing your doubt, distrust or fear to God is a sign that you are in the right place. The Bible says that if our hearts condemn us then Christ is stronger even that that and we know He's able. I can hear those strong young men in Daniel tell the "head", the king, the ruler, a most fearsome dictator, these words, paraphrased of course: "We know who you are, King. We've seen your work. But we have a God, the one true God and we know that He is bigger and badder than you. He can deliver us and keep us protected from whatever you want to do to us. Yet, if he doesn't do it, we know He can. Therefore, we won't bow a knee or a head for anyone but Him. That's our answer so do what you gotta do." The duplicity of their situation brought the best out of them and left us an example to follow - stay fully armed and confident in God through both good and bad times. He is ever-present and all powerful. Amen!

It's Already Alright

2011-03-11T08:08:00.002-06:00

Sometimes, it's important that we stop and take inventory of our lives. We have to look for the patterns we've set, both good and bad, so that we know what changes need to be made for a better, more productive life. In my life, I've more often been prone to motoring through without a lot of reflection, mainly because I've had so many tragedies enter my life. I taught myself to press right through it and keep moving. But that isn't always the right answer.

Sometimes, God just needs you still, quiet, contented and attentive to what He is doing. I notice a lot of people give the advice to be still and see what God is "trying" to do. He's going to do His thing. It's much easier on us if we submit, go along willfully with the Father, trusting that He knows best. When we do this, we learn how to be still in His hands, under His shadow, hidden in His secret place. I guess what I'm trying to say today is that whatever your issue is today, count it as worked out. Stop saying it's going to be alright and tell yourself it's already alright. You're being quiet and resting in the hands of the Creator of all existence. What safer place could you be?

Updated and Fresh

2011-03-10T09:21:00.000-06:00

Recently, I've done more work on my Officially Lacresha Hayes website. I have to say, it's looking great. I'm very pleased with it. My hits have been up to the thousands every day just about it and that brings me joy. Still, I need your help to push it to the next level.

I need your feedback and suggestions, links and visits. They are all needed and will be deeply appreciated. Also, for those with a Facebook profile, please consider liking my fan pages, Books by Lacresha Hayes and Officially Lacresha Hayes since my profile is now full.

Thanks for all your support over the years. Here's to many more successes together.

Woes of the Heart

2011-03-04T06:11:00.003-06:00

Not one person in the world is beyond the reach of pain, especially if they love others. When you're being hurt, you have the choice to either forgive and move on. Or, you can stew in it until the meat has cooked off your bones. My point, pain shouldn't be avoid. When it presents itself, it needs to be embraced. You need to gather all that you can while you're hurting. Otherwise, that pain was void of meaning and guess what else? You'll find yourself going through it again.

The best way to deal with heartaches is to take all your prayers to God, then leave them there, and finally praise and trust Him to work it out for you, to give you what you need out of every experience.

Getting My Life Back

2011-03-02T06:57:00.001-06:00

No one can see the future and we often find that our lives are determined as much by chance as by planning. In other words, sometimes the unexpected happens and we have to make room for it, adjusting our schedules, budgets, and/or hearts.

Today, I'm focusing on getting my life back on track, at least in the traditional sense of the word. Time is uncertain. The future is uncertain. Nevertheless, my calling is sure. My skill set is sure. My dreams and goals, I'm sure of. I am making my plans, but leaving room for God to do whatever it is He wants to do however He wants to do it.

Learning Spanish

2011-03-01T09:08:00.001-06:00

In the past four months, I've been studying Spanish, seeking to become conversational. For me, I'm finding it much easier to read it and write it than to speak it or understand it when spoken to me by a traditional Spanish speaker. But, I'm getting better.

For those who have asked about what resources I'm using, please refer to the Learn Spanish and About.com websites, which both boast a lot of free resources for those seeking to learn the Spanish language. I've also used several Spanish books, namely a Spanish/English dictionary and the Intermediate Spanish for Dummies book.

Stress is a Killer!

2011-02-28T08:48:00.001-06:00

Today, my focus is on healing. Recently, I became aware of problems with my joints. On a bad day, my shoulders, elbows, wrists, fingers, hips and knees hurt every time I bend them. And being the bubbly, hyper person that I once was is a challenge, to say the least.

In my research of lupus and all the problems that happen as a result of it, I've found that stress is frequently named as an issue for those with lupus and arthritis. Already, I suffer from Grave's disease, another stress-related disease. I have epilepsy also, and find that I have more seizures when I am stressed out.

I hope you all will take note of the primary issue in my life- STRESS. Stress is a killer! It is important for those who want to be healthy that you learn to manage your stress levels, being willing to even sacrifice certain things in favor of your health and healing. Our bodies were made to heal themselves, but if we are stressed, not eating well, not exercising, and generally not taking care of ourselves, then we put ourselves at a disadvantage. Our bodies then become weakened and our immune systems compromised. Please take note of your lifestyle now, before your body forces you to.

My Commitment to Writing

2011-02-26T07:47:00.001-06:00

In the past six years, I've plotted and outlined more than 25 titles with nearly 20 finished works, 8 of which are on the market. In that time, I've found myself writing many different things for many different reasons. I've questioned and reconsidered my work as a writer/author. During times of low sales, I've questioned my talent. During times of extended writer's block, I've questioned my commitment. The one thing I've always been certain of is the power of the written word.

Sure, things are changing in the publishing industry. As an author and publisher and marketer, I'm in the perfect position to see the changes which are on the horizon. I can see the fast break toward electronic files and less paper usage. I can see the dash to online purchases versus in-store purchases for almost all media types, maybe with the exception of magazines.

Today, I am committing myself once again to another year of writing articles, books and blog posts. I am committing myself to writing what I feel will be wholesome entertainment or educational, inspirational material for those who want what I have to offer. Another year and another 100,000 plus words! That is my commitment!

It's Amazing What New Can Do

2011-02-24T07:38:00.002-06:00

Recently, I got a new haircut and a new lease on life, it seems. Cutting off all that dead hair made me more committed to cutting off other dead things in my life. Since my haircut, I've done more research on healthier eating and living habits, ways to cut down on the fat in my diet, ways to cut back on high stress living, etc. I've also committed to taking fewer narcotics and other strong medicines. What do you need to do to get a new lease on life? No time like the present to get started.

To the GOOD Men

2011-02-23T08:03:00.000-06:00

This is just a bit off topic from what I normally post here, but I believe it needs saying.

For so long, women have complained about how difficult it is to find a good man. We harp on and on about the woes of cheating, lying, lazy and abusive men. We talk about the issues of dating, marriage and parenting with these "unreliable" men of the world today. Well, this post is in direct opposition with what most women complain about.

Today, I want to celebrate men. I want to celebrate the regular, everyday guys who are faithful, considerate, kind, trustworthy, hard-working and honest. There are great men out there. Sure they may not be packaged the way we want. Maybe they don't have a six pack. Maybe their love handles are extended and bulging. Maybe they don't have the glamorous job titles or drive the fancy cars. But they are out there. They are our grocery store clerks, railroad workers, mechanics and janitors. They are waiting for some woman to see them for who they are. They are awaiting a good woman, one with vision and patience who can see the value in them without the feigned glory of the flashy lifestyle many "players" favor.

I don't believe there is a shortage of good people. I believe there is a shortage of fighters. Many of us don't want to knuckle up and fight for what we desire. We don't want to endure the hard times. We want everything fast, easy and free of struggle. Well, nothing in life that is highly desired can come without struggle. And when it comes to finding a "good" man, sometimes it isn't a good man that is lacking in the relationship. Sometimes, it is a "wise" woman that is missing. Sometimes, in our search for good men, we stop working on us and we miss the mark ourselves. We don't even realize that we aren't all that great and have many areas that needs improvement too.

What is my point? Good is a relative word. All people need work at all times. What makes a man or a woman good or acceptable? That they love God, love their mate and are committed to becoming better each day. Good isn't found in the size of the wallet, which can change overnight. Good isn't found in the bulge of the muscles, which is vain. Good isn't found in the glorious titles held by some men (attorney, doctor, bishop). In fact, the qualities that make any man a good man isn't any of the things we see on the Hollywood movies. Is he an attentive father? Is he a caring husband? Does he admit when he's wrong? Can he accept the responsibility for his actions without complaints and excuses? Does he work hard? Is he a leader for his family, particularly in spiritual matters?

Let's not be deceived any further, ladies. After all, it takes a "good" woman to identify a "good" man.

I'm All Over the Web

2011-02-13T16:38:00.001-06:00

Today I would like to remind all my readers about some of the other things I have going online. I love connecting with you and building more meaningful relationships with my readers and friends.

You can catch me on Goodreads, Facebook, my official website, Twitter, LinkedIn, Youtube and of course our marriage blog which will be undergoing some major changes in the coming days and weeks to be more interactive and informative. We want to do more to connect you with others like you also. So, use the links and connect with me. I look forward to seeing you around.

Ignorance- The Most Expensive Freebie of All

2011-02-02T11:10:00.000-06:00

Ignorance is not a rare commodity. In fact, it is as plentiful as dirt. You can find it on any corner. In fact, it's free, but costs you everything you have in the end. Why am I discussing that today?

Some people have not yet accepted the responsibility of gathering and applying knowledge in their own lives. No doubt, after we come of age, our education is in our own hands. I'm not speaking of simple schooling in various topics, though this is all well and good too. I am speaking of the knowledge that feeds the mind and the spirit. This is now your responsibility. In these times, it's important that you are personally studying your Bible, maybe even other ancient and recent documents, getting the knowledge you need to defend your faith because in these upcoming times, you will be challenged in the area of faith like never before. Ignorance is NOT on your side in these kind of battles. In fact, the things you are ignorant of will be the things that can cause your downfall.

This year, this day, challenge yourself to begin filling your spiritual cup with daily time with God, both in His Word and in prayer. I share this with you because the times are coming when true inspiration will be rare and you will need to be the inspiration rather than seeking it elsewhere. I love you all!

Your Beauty, Embrace It

2011-01-26T06:39:00.000-06:00

When you've had multiple tragedies and you've experienced many heart aches, scar tissue may yet linger. Maybe looking at it makes you feel like a walking lump of mistakes and mishaps. But the beauty that is within you is much stronger and much brighter than any scar, any mistake, any mishap and any tragedy in your past and for that matter, any that will come. Embrace the beauty of being you because there has never been another you and never will be. Learn to feel pretty again.

An Excerpt from DRAMA (Love Challenges)

2011-01-22T14:48:00.000-06:00

LOVE CHALLENGES

We try to define love based upon what we feel. It’s our natural way, the way many are taught, but the most erroneous and dangerous way to attempt it. That brings a challenge in defining and showing love, which challenge only grows without a true relationship with God.
As a child, I had one definition of love. As I grew up and in experiences, my definition changed and evolved, but not necessarily for the best. In fact, hard life warped my ideas of love so badly that many of my dreams, goals and relationships were affected by it.
When I started up with Jay the first time, it was the fact that he was much older and more settled that drew me in. I figured he’d know how to love me and protect me. When we started up the second time, I was cautious and tried to talk to my emotions, tame them so that I’d feel nothing. But feelings are a small part of love. Love is an action that gives and gives and gives without counting how much has been given or tallying what is owed for all that has been given. The emotion of love is that overwhelming sensation that says even when you’re hurting me, I cannot imagine causing you pain. I’ll take your insults, your injuries, your callousness and I’ll care even more for you. I don’t see what you’re doing or hear what you’re saying. I see your heart and the issues that are springing up there that are causing your actions and I forgive you because I know you need my love and forgiveness more than my judgment or retaliation. Wow, the power of love.

Differences

2011-01-18T07:00:00.000-06:00

Not everyone grew up like you. Not everyone has your experiences, and even those who have had them didn't necessarily process the experiences in the same way.

Always remember when dealing with others that they are totally separate entities with varying principles and beliefs. Embracing that fact upfront helps us handle those differences much better. We are all small pieces of one major body. We need one another and so let's endeavor to truly accept one another this year, to support each other, to be refreshing to the souls of our brothers and sisters and neighbors, and to give compassion and mercy while speaking only the truth in love to those who are listening. New year and new you. Look out world! Here we come!

We Must Have Balance

2011-01-17T12:30:00.001-06:00

There has to be balance in life, and especially when it comes to our spiritual walk. For ten years, I've been trying to find that balance in holiness and righteousness. I've been seeking out how to behave and respond to God's people, what to teach them when it comes to sin. I can't speak for everyone, but here's what I've learned:

None of us are without sin in prior life or present life. We all do things contrary to faith, which is sin. None of us have perfect thoughts, words and deeds at every moment of our life, even after Christ. However, it seems to be a rampant error of judgment in the church. We nearly crucify the homosexuals, the liars, the thieves, the fornicators and the adulterers. Those "big" sins of theirs are so easy to read and see that we somehow feel more righteous than they are because our sins are so much quieter. What we don't realize is that our sins are also that much more dangerous. It is truly the small foxes that spoil the vine. So we sit in our homes being judgmental of others while we practice rebellion toward our spouses, hypocritical attitudes while dealing with our children, telling "little" lies on our taxes or to our friends who ask too many personal questions, and altogether don't walk in a love that gives toward our fellow man. And we are all in the same boat without knowing, thinking we have attained some level of success because most people can no longer see our sin. How deadly and poisonous!

We must have balance and what I learned the hard way is that God reserves the right to judge our eternal home because only He knows the heart and only He can see the fullness of the measure of man. Only He is perfect so that only He is justified in sentencing us to heaven or hell. Our jobs are to link up, arm and arm, and learn from one another, sharing our strengths, covering each others' weaknesses. Our jobs are not to label one another, laying stumblingblocks in the path of our sisters and brothers. We should for sure always remember that we are human and we err in many things in many ways. But one thing we can do perfectly, if we allow God to live in us, is love one another regardless of our flaws. We must have balance and to do so, we must refocus on our own lives and living the best we can while not condemning those who we deem as worse than us. Find your balance.

Ugly Traits on Life Support

2011-01-11T11:00:00.000-06:00

In the past four months, I've been in a situation to really analyze human behavior, including my own. It's amazing how safe we feel and secure in our values we think we are when we are around those who share those values. But outside of our safe haven, our values and beliefs are tried on a level above the average temptation.

As a believer, I've spent the last few years saturated in the company of other Christians. Being in a sheltered atmosphere like that made me feel safe and strong in principles. However, recently I was pulled out of my sheltered life and put in the midst of the people all Christians are called to pray for- nonbelievers. And while certain things about me proved to be true, there were countless other things I didn't know about myself. I didn't know how judgmental or harsh I could be. I didn't know how many stereotypes existed in my mind. I didn't know that a portion of my hypocritical side lived on. I didn't know that ignorance and hatred were still in my heart. I didn't know that the hot head was still alive. Apparently, those ugly traits were not dead. They'd been on life-support, quietly trying to nurse themselves back to life.

So now, I find myself back at the foot of the Cross, seeking God and asking Him to wash me again, clean me up and purify my heart. I shared all this with you to remind you all that we believers need to take constant inventory of OURSELVES before ever looking at our neighbors. We need to make sure we are walking in love, staying humble and keeping ourselves accountable for our actions, thoughts and words. It's okay to be imperfect. That's the whole point in the work done at the Cross of Christ. Run back to God seeking a fresh bath in His Holy Word.

Live Free by All Means

2011-01-07T07:03:00.001-06:00

Do you know how much happiness and joy you've sacrificed trying to make others love and accept you? Can you even count the number of tears you've shed over unhealthy emotional bonds with people who choose not to love you unconditionally? Think about all the wasted time, effort and energy you've spent trying to please those who, to some degree, were not important in the grand scheme of things.

No doubt, someone can find fault with everything you do. There's no way to possibly please everybody, not even the majority of the people in your life. So, here's a new idea for this new year- focus solely on pleasing and honoring God. As a secondary objective, think about living in a way that makes you smile when you wake up in the morning, in a way that makes you proud to be who you are. If you can find satisfaction in life, it's going to be through releasing yourself from being a people-pleaser and releasing yourself to be a God-pleaser. Live free by all means.

Learning to Smile

2011-01-06T06:32:00.001-06:00

I've learned to smile, not because everything is great in my life and all things are to my liking. In fact, I'm staring down a lupus, epilepsy, Grave's disease and arthritis diagnosis. My body is in pain almost every moment of everyday and most of my meds have stopped working effectively. I'm in debt, trouble and emotional upheaval. Nevertheless, I've learned to smile because no matter what hits come, I'm still standing. Apparently, God built me Ford tough and even tougher. Like Timex, He created me to take a lickin' and keep on tickin'. It may be hard to stop a Trane, but God created me to be as unstoppable as a Trane and an immovable object. It's the resilience of God and His faithfulness.

If you held your head down all last year, you can choose to go that route again and see if something different happens. Or, you can try lifting your head, looking to the hills from whence cometh your help. All of your help is going to come from the Lord and only in His way and His timing. Might as well rejoice, be glad and enjoy each day as if it is your last. That's what it's made for!

Free From Social Stigma

2011-01-05T11:39:00.000-06:00

One time, a friend of mine asked me if I was ashamed to tell the world that I used to be loose. As much as it is something to be ashamed of, I realized that I'm no longer ashamed of anything that I've done. Here's why and how you can free yourself from social stigma:

When I participated in certain lifestyles, I did so for whatever reason, hating myself the whole while. And in all my self-loathing, my conditions in life only grew worse. The more I dabbled in unacceptable behavior, the less hope I had of ever coming out of this life with any level of success. Finally, I was introduced fully into Christianity and learned one immutable truth- no one, NOBODY, not a soul is perfect and sinless! (Nope, not the Bradys down the street, or the McCoys up the road, not judges, probation officers, cops, not doctors and attorneys, not even the best pastors with the deepest revelations.) Can you imagine how freeing that was?

Finally, I was able to understand that God loves me regardless and always did, even in my lowest points. I was also able to see that the people I was most ashamed in front of were in no better shape as it pertains to flaws, and were in no position to judge the mistakes I'd made. I was able to embrace the love and forgiveness of God and eventually able to forgive myself. After that, the forgiveness and acceptance of others is like an optional feature on a luxury car... it isn't necessary though it is nice when you have it. Do you yet understand what I'm trying to say?

Don't hold your head down and mope around feeling like the scum of the earth or ashamed because you've done dumb things, made foolish decisions and hurt others. WE ALL HAVE. Don't give up on yourself based upon the life you previously lived. Everyone deserves as many chances as it takes to get it right, not just second chances. Give yourself that room to change and don't dare forget or be ashamed of where you come from, whether it is homosexuality, promiscuous living, prostitution, drug use, drug dealing, violence, sexual abuse or mental illness. Honey, that is where your testimony and power lie!

RESET- It's All New

2011-01-03T08:51:00.000-06:00

The beauty of a New Year is that people tend to feel like everything is new, much more so than just the passing of one day to the next. People enter new years with resolutions and make decisions on big issues in their lives. And so here we are again in a new year, 2011. I'm sure you're full of excitement and wonder about what these 365 days will hold as compared to the last 365 days of your life.

This is the perfect time to take that excitement, joy, wonder and energy and begin again. When I speak of beginning again, I'm not being specific because all of us have some area of life we really want to push the reset button on. Whatever yours is, go on and push the button. Believe that you can create, maneuver, change or end whatever is necessary to get you out of any ruts and into living a truly satisfying life.

I pray that you use your spiritual eye to see that all things are as new as you want them to be. Let your life change by doing something different, maybe unexpected, and doing it full of faith that this day is your day to start over. RESET!!!

The Face of Struggle

2010-12-29T13:04:00.000-06:00

The face of struggle isn't always one that is visibly worn with lines of pain and turmoil. It isn't always framed with gray hair. In fact, in whatever face you stare, you'll find that even that face has struggled in some area or another at some point in time. Struggle is the way of life. In some ways, it is the way we are even prepared for life.

If you look at the violence of birth, you will know what I mean. This sizable baby has to be squeezed, pressed and otherwise made to feel uncomfortable to make it to this world. It isn't pleasant to the baby. In fact, it's probably the most stressful ordeal anyone can go through. But through that tight squeeze, excess fluids are pulled off the baby. Through all that vigorous rubbing, the baby's circulation is improved. With the prodding for the child to cry, his/her air passages are cleared. What am I trying to say? I'm trying to say that struggle is ordained and it can be one of the most beautiful things when embraced for what it actually is.

You may feel like your life has been more struggle than ease. But if you look at the strength you possess, the character, the values and all those things that make you the wonderful person you are, I bet you'll find that all those fantastic qualities developed in the midst of some struggle or another.

You Already Know

2010-12-28T18:55:00.000-06:00

So, you guys know how I will go off radar from time to time, mostly unexpectedly. But, I always come back to you. LOL!!!

Anyway, I'm going to take the blog in a new direction for a few weeks to discuss something that is so important to me that words cannot describe. I want to discuss more of my personal testimony and shine the light on some things that are often swept under the rug. I hope you guys will continue to support me and this blog and will help me spread the word by telling your friends, posting link backs, using Digg and Technorati and other sites like that. Whatever you can do will be greatly appreciated. Here's holiday hugs to all of you. I love you truly!

Meet Destiny from Beware the Devil's Hug

2010-10-29T05:02:00.001-05:00

I am so happy to have a great interview for the readers today. I am interviewing Destiny from the popular book, Beware the Devil's Hug by Marvin Wilson. You're going to love it so without further ado, here she is in all her glory. Welcome Destiny and leave a comment for a chance to win some fabulous prizes.

Lacresha: Hi Destiny. I really enjoyed reading your story in Beware the Devil's Hug. I know my readers want to know more about you too.

Destiny: Thanks, Lacresha, I’m so glad to be here and to meet you. Marvin talks very highly of you, says you’re like his special ‘God-Niece.’ So it’s a real pleasure.

Lacresha: Destiny, in the book we see that your father molested you. And then the lifestyle you chose. Could you tell us more about your childhood?

Destiny: Mm, well, I was a happy enough little girl, kind of a Tomboy, and I had lots of fun as a kid ... up until I reached puberty, but yeah—Daddy mistreated me sexually from about thirteen years old ‘til I ran away from home at sixteen. And then out on my own I was like so lost and naive, I trusted this guy—he was older, about thirty, fancy dresser, lots of money, big Cadillac—he said he loved me and wanted to treat me like his queen. I fell for him and would do anything for him, just to feel like I was loved. I was so stupid. Turns out he was a pimp. He led me right down the primrose path into prostitution—turned me out as a whore and got me hooked on heroin so I had to keep turning tricks to feed my habit even after I finally got the nerve up to leave him.

Those are such bad memories, girlfriend, so horrible ... things that still can bother me if I dwell on them, but ... like people will read in the book, I finally came to a healing place in my heart where I could let go all the hatred I had and forgive my dad, and ... (Destiny sighs deeply) ... forgive him for what he done to me. Iam, he insisted I let go of all the rage and harboured resentment, said it would make me feel better, clean and whole, and ... he was right. Today I am a very happy woman, no ill feelings toward anyone in here. (she puts a hand over her heart) I don’t carry any guilt or shame anymore, I’m at peace with myself. And Daddy and me are tight now, feels so good.

Lacresha: That's wonderful news that you two were able to fix things. So tell, when you first met Iam, did you think that old man would be your salvation? What was your first impression?

Destiny: (Laughs loudly) I was like, ‘Eeewww, what a butt ugly, smelly, nasty old fart of a man!’ I didn’t want nothing to do with him. Nobody did. Nobody I knew had any idea what a spiritually high and great being he was. He was all creepy looking, dressed in shabby rags, smelly. Everyone shunned him. Salvation? You kidding me? He paid me eighty five dollars to, well ... I thought I was gonna turn a trick with him, you know, but ... no way I figured I wind up falling in love with him and marrying him, let alone get cleansed and healed by his embrace. I considered him repulsive, and was ashamed of myself for agreeing to have sex with him, even though I was desperate for the money cuz I needed my heroin fix. Then it turns out he didn’t even want to screw me ... just wanted to hug me, that’s all, fully clothed, and that’s when the miracle—salvation as you say—all started happening. No way I saw that coming from a guy like him! Shows how surface appearances can be very misleading, right?

Lacresha: It's obvious that you and Iam love each other very much, how has being a part of a loving relationship changed you?

Destiny: Oh, Lacresha, it. Is. Just. Heaven. I had never, in all my life, ever really been made love to. Screwing? Thousands of times, but never any feeling in it, not once the warmth and love of real love making. And besides the intimacy sexually, being intimate with the man you love on all levels—intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, it’s like ... wow! Never knew life could be so great, so fulfilling.

Lacresha: One outstanding part of the book was when you forgave your father, do you think you could have ever done that without Iam?

Destiny: Nuh-uh, no way. I’d have let him go to his grave a condemned man by me and God—which I didn’t even at the time know if I believed there was a God, but if so, I wanted God to send that man to rot in hell for all eternity. Had I not met Iam? I’d still be hating him. And hurting inside because of it. One thing Iam taught me is, harbouring hatred and resentment does more harm to the one doing the hating than it does to the hated one. Once I let go of that, forgave Daddy, I was like all light, free, and happy feeling. Amazing.

Lacresha: What do you think of Iam's new job? Does it keep him too occupied for private time?

Destiny: You mean the janitorial work? I’m not gonna talk about his brand new position, cuz I don’t want to spoil the end of the story for the book readers. But while he was busy all day doing the nine to five thang, hey—I have no problem with that. I was glad he finally gave up begging and started working. Allowed me to dress him up nice and we go out usually a couple times a week. Iam has incredible energy for such an older guy, so holding down a job doesn’t slow him down in the—you know—bedroom, either. (Destiny winks and covers a sly grin with one hand)

Lacresha: Children were mentioned and, of course, Iam is quite old already. What are your future plans together?

Destiny: Well, I wanted two babies, and Iam, he didn’t want any at first. So, but we settled on having one child. I have to have at least one baby by him, you know? Do you not know that man is one hundred sixty two years old? I was like, what? When he told me that, cuz I had thought him to be probably in his late 60’s or early 70’s, but wow, uh-uh. So I told him if he’s that old and still kicking this strong he can hang around at least another thirty years and raise a little family, right? Course, I hope and pray he lives long enough for me to grow old with him. I just loves that ol’ man o’ mine.

Lacresha: Do you think there's a chance we'll get another Destiny/Iam book anytime soon?

Destiny: Mmm, I don’t know, for real. I could see it maybe happening, I mean we’re off on quite the adventure ride now, as people will read at the end of the book, so ... (Destiny raises her eyebrows and palms up) ... who knows? It could happen.

Lacresha: How do you feel about how Marvin Wilson told your story? Did he leave out anything you'd like to share today?

Destiny: Well, truth be told, it’s a little embarrassing having all your dirty underwear publically displayed like mine has been. No, he didn’t leave nothing out, and at first I was like, for real, Mister? You’re gonna blab to the whole world all about how I was a junkie and a prostitute? But I know he had to tell it like it is—well, was—and that’s a lot of what makes the story so incredible, as far as my part in it, anyway. No, I don’t really have any problem with the way he wrote the story. It’s the truth, and the truth has set me free, so ...

Lacresha: Thanks for stopping by, Destiny. Please tell my readers where they can find the book and how they may follow the tour.

Destiny: Oh it was fun! Thanks again for having me on your blog. I really like what you do, the kinds of subjects you cover here, I’ll have to become a regular. Marvin said you were like, the greatest, and I can see why.

Ahm, you can order the book on Amazon, all the major online bookstores, it’s available in ebook, Kindle, and paperback versions. Also you can get it right from the publisher, All Things That Matter Press, and you can purchase it from any major brick and mortar bookstore, too. You may have to order it at first, but you can.

For people to be able to follow along on the tour, or even catch up on all the great stops already happened, just go to the Hugs Therapy Virtual Tour 2010 page on The Old Silly’s Free Spirit Blog. And while you’re there, make sure and read up on all the great prizes and giveaways Marvin is doing for readers in the contest! Really cool, lots of people will get free books, gift certificates, all kinds of stuff.

So again, thanks so much, Lacresha. I hope your readers enjoyed our chat. The tour continues tomorrow, which is the last day and Grand Finale event, over at Kissie’s blog, which she calls JustKissie.com ... isn’t that cute? I’m looking forward to it. Okay, bye now. I’m meeting that ol’ man o’ mine for lunch. But I’ll stop in again a few times today if anyone wants to ask me a question or chat about anything. See ya!

I JUST DIDN'T HAVE THE TIME

2010-10-22T07:50:00.000-05:00

Just wanted to share a little poem to remind us all, how important it is to MAKE TIME to PRAY. We must always make time to talk to our Heavenly Father ~ don't get lost in the busyness of life!

I KNELT TO PRAY BUT NOT FOR LONG I HAD TOO MUCH TO DO

I HAD TO HURRY TO GET TO WORK FOR BILLS WOULD SOON BE DUE

SO I KNELT AND SAID A HURRIED PRAYER AND JUMPED UP OFF MY KNEES

MY CHRISTIAN DUTY WAS NOW DONE MY SOUL COULD REST AT EASE

ALL DAY LONG I HAD NO TIME TO SPREAD A WORD OF CHEER

NO TIME TO SPEAK OF CHRIST TO FRIENDS THEY'D LAUGH AT ME I'D FEAR

NO TIME, NO TIME, TOO MUCH TO DO THAT WAS MY CONSTANT CRY

NO TIME TO GIVE TO SOULS IN NEED BUT AT LAST THE TIME........TO DIE

I WENT BEFORE THE LORD I CAME, I STOOD WITH DOWNCAST EYES

FOR IN HIS HANDS GOD HELD A BOOK IT WAS THE BOOK OF LIFE

GOD LOOKED INTO HIS BOOK AND SAID YOUR NAME I CANNOT FIND

I ONCE WAS GOING TO WRITE IT DOWN BUT NEVER FOUND THE TIME!

(Author Unknown)

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS

2010-09-27T11:32:00.000-05:00

Good Afternoon,

Praying that all is well with you all, this is a short post to those that may have missed Pastor Lensey's post on FB concerning our beloved Lacresha, she had to go to the hospital on last night.

Let's remember to keep her and her family in our continued prayers knowing that Prayer changes situations and circumstances around for the better. Let's continue to pray for and encourage the man and woman of God that count it not robbery to share their time and effort to spread the good news in hopes of winning souls, renewing minds, and refreshing visions/dreams in the lives and hearts of God's people.

Matthew 18:20 ~ For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

Matthew 18:19 ~ Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.

Pastors Lensey & Lacresha Hayes, we love you and you're in our continued prayers!

All Around the Net

2010-09-24T06:48:00.000-05:00

Today, I'm inviting you to visit my other sites and blogs and form a new connection with me. Please follow the links below and as always, your feedback is greatly appreciated.

Facebook
Goodreads
Official website
LinkedIn
Twitter
Books by Lacresha Hayes
The Rape of Innocence
Truth and Intimacy: The Classified Files

See you around the net.

Bold, Daring, Determined

2010-09-20T06:04:00.001-05:00

As an author, my passion and my job are one in the same. And while at times that fact can complicate my day, for the most part, it runs smoothly. I'm doing what I love on my own time and terms. I can remember times when I worked in positions that were contrary to my skill set and my desires and I was totally unsatisfied.

Some of you reading this are unsatisfied with your life because you desire things you don't have. And I pose this question to you... what are you going to do about it? Moaning and groaning and imagining the what ifs will not give you your desires. You have to be willing to do something different. You must be bold, daring and determined. It's your life so live it!!!

Positive Confessions 5

2010-09-17T07:41:00.000-05:00

Everything I touch will prosper. Increase is coming into my life. Everything I touch will prosper.

Positive Confession 4

2010-09-16T08:39:00.001-05:00

I have favor with man. Doors are opening for me. I have favor with man.

Positive Confession 3

2010-09-15T07:37:00.001-05:00

I have favor with God. Amazing things will happen for me. I have favor with God.

Positive Confession 2

2010-09-14T07:34:00.000-05:00

I had to cut into our confessions week, but here is the second positive confession.

My family is a healthy unit. We spend quality time together. My family is a healthy unit.

SPLINTERED by Lacresha Hayes, an excerpt

2010-09-13T07:58:00.001-05:00

How could she expect him to believe anything she said? She’d lied so many times. She’d deceived everyone in her life. Now, when she needed someone to believe her the most, no one did. He’d probably be no different.
   “Are you going to say something?”
   “Like what, Mena? What do you expect me to say?”
   “I expect you to say something. Geez, Eric, I just opened up to you. I’d appreciate some kind of an answer.” The silence was so loud. Mena didn’t know what to do. The tears were streaming down her face. Her heart was pounding. Her hands were trembling. And no matter what Eric said, she could tell she’d probably lost the love she’d worked so hard to build with him.
   “Mena, I need some time to think. Whether all of what you told me is true of not, I’m not sure I can handle this anymore. I don’t know how many times I can stand up for you, defending you against the terrible things people say about you. I’m no longer sure what we have is worth the headache.”
   His words cut like a samurai sword. Was this really the end? After all the years of friendship and relationship, it was like salt in the wound to think she’d finally gotten the proposal of her dreams just to lose it all.
   “Please, don’t walk out on me like this, Eric! I need you. I’m all alone in this. I’m weak and tired. I’m broken to pieces already. It will kill me if I lost you.”
   “Stop with the dramatics, Mena. They no longer work on me.”
   Mena ran ahead of Eric and blocked the doorway. “Please, just listen to me! You got to give…”
   “NO! No, I don’t have to listen to you. I don’t have to give you anything anymore. You had everything you could possibly want. You had me. No, Mena, I don’t owe you anything.”

Positive Confessions Week

2010-09-12T08:30:00.000-05:00

This week we're going to practice positive confessions. Words have creative power. Why misuse them? We have to learn to speak good and right things if we want a good life. Our confessions must change. The first confession is below.

I am whole. There is nothing missing and nothing broken. I am whole.

Poetry for Your Heart - Becoming: My Personal Memoirs

2010-09-07T08:04:00.001-05:00

REALITY

You never really knew

How I felt about you

We just went through the motion

Never did you see

The most sensitive side of me

Your heart never had the notion

To you it was a game

It was just the same

As it had been so many times before

I had given my love in vain

I was feeling the pain

It was destroying my very core

Would you do it different now

That you know how

Your playing and lies hurt me

Or would you do it in spite

Bedding me tonight

Knowing that you don't want me

In this reality that I must face

In your heart I have no place

You're not mine, what can I say

I can only go on my way

You Can Do It...

2010-09-06T08:25:00.000-05:00

Good Morning All, praying that your holiday is blessed beyond measure! I decided to take this opportunity to share a few words of encouragement with you all.

Have you sat down lately and thought about what you want to do or be? Was the results of your thinking just a little bit overwhelming?

Maybe you want to go back to school, or start your own business, write a book/novel perhaps, be a Doctor, lawyer or maybe singer or dancer. Whatever the case may be it's not too late and it can be done even if the steps to accomplishing your dreams seem to be a little overwhelming. TRUST ME, if you keep your focus on the process of accomplishing your dreams, YOU WILL NOT ACCOMPLISH THEM but if you take one step at a time, focusing on the finished product you will stride quickly.

Scripture tells us that we are "MORE THAN CONQUERORS" and that "WE CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST", knowing that with Christ we can do, say and be all that we dream. God has given us the POWER to be VICTORIOUS in all that we do and say. Receive that power and use it starting today - use your spare time to WRITE THE VISION AND MAKE IT PLAIN that when you and others see it you may run well towards it. Thank God for our "LACRESHA HAYES" she is the perfect example of this that I'm speaking of on today (We love you Lacresha).

I encourage all that read this, please do not give up on your dreams/goals - whatever your obstacles may be that's hindering you, know that it has no power to stop you from accomplishing all that you set out to do. My friends do whatever it takes to resurrect those dreams and goals that you have buried due to finance, heartache, pain, sexual abuse, domestic violence, education, fear, etc., don't allow those strongholds to hold you back any longer. Without a vision we perish, speak life into your family, your atmosphere, your dreams, your goals - YES, YOU CAN DO IT!

Witness: I needed this word also and I'm resurrecting some things in my life even as I type because encouraging you help me to realize that I too CAN DO IT!

Excerpt from BLACK DAKOTA by Lacresha Hayes

2010-09-06T08:08:00.001-05:00

    Dakota awoke suddenly! Sweat poured from her body as she trembled and cried. That dream felt so real. She looked at her hands. There was no blood there. What a relief!
   Dakota got up and went into the bathroom. She looked as if she’d seen a ghost. She washed her face and scrubbed her hands as if she thought some invisible signs of blood may have been there.
   Knock, knock, knock.
   It was still very early in the morning. Dakota was in no condition to deal with company.
   Knock, knock, knock.
   The sound was more persistent. She walked over to her door. The knocking came again, but this time with a voice. “Police. Open up.”
   It looked like her past had found her after all. There seemed to be no escaping it. Nowhere left to run, though her mind raced for a way to get out of the situation. “One moment, please.”
   Dakota put on her house robe. She pulled herself together and prepared to pay the price for what happened those many years before. She slowly opened the door. “May I help you?”

List of Lovely Literature

2010-09-05T09:17:00.001-05:00

Someone asked me about my titles, the published and those in the works. So without further ado, let me give you a list and one sentence summary of the books I have and am writing:

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Becoming: My Personal Memoirs - poetry about pain, anguish and ultimate victory

The Rape of Innocence: Taking Captivity Captive - true story about surviving abuse and abandonment

Poetic Infinity: Passion and Promise - poetry about life, society and personal struggles

Truth and Intimacy: A Couple's Journal - marriage building tool with everything in one book

Tangled - novella about navigating through life and love in a small town

Raw Redemption - novel about an abuse victim that has to face her past

Black Dakota - novel about a woman who ran from a mistake and found Jesus

The Snare of a Strange Woman - learn the perils of adultery and beat it once and for all

Splintered - young woman with a sketchy past has to decide between her fiance and her lies

Mistakes Parents Make - learn how to parent and be the role model you want your children to have

The Culpepper Saga - children's book about a family and all their adventures in day to day life

Justified - true story about the troubles with the justice system but the mercy of God

Full Exposure: Behind Church Walls - there is a subtle difference between what is good and what is right in churches today

Drama - true story about dating the wrong person and the many pains that come behind it

Unnecessary Roughness - learn the tactics of the devil so you can stand against him

Always the Bride - true story though full of whimsy about a desire to be a bride's maid

Cascade of Tears - true story about my struggles with the healthcare system and finding a diagnosis that all doctors agreed with

Dusty - novel about a woman who goes on a journey to discover herself once more

Give Me a Do Over - learn to get over your past, on with your life and allow today to be your second chance

Atonement: The Johanssen Clan - part two of Raw Redemption

Common Ground for Couples

2010-09-03T07:10:00.001-05:00

Women and men differ in many aspects and those aspects are often exploited to sell magazines and books, television series and products. But I want to talk about two similarities.

Men and women everywhere want to be loved and respected. Some crave it so much that they do ridiculous things for it. And while the differences between men and women are real, the place to begin building a relationship is the common ground. Often times, husbands and wives find themselves at a standoff. Neither of them will bulge an inch to supply what the other desires until their own needs are met. This isn't how you do marriage and before long, the couple is divorced in their minds, hearts and souls even if not on paper.

Let's stop focusing on the differences and begin focusing on the similarities between the sexes. Let's begin to build one another in the areas that we know are lacking. Let's not be too afraid to yield to our mate. We just might find that the person sitting in front of us is more like us than we ever would have imagined.

Be Free

2010-09-02T06:49:00.000-05:00

There are so many people imprisoned by their own belief system and the opinions of others. But it isn't until we embrace ourselves, love ourselves and put effort into improving ourselves that we can truly be happy. Don't allow yourself to be in bondage to carnality, the mindset of others, or to your past. You deserve a second chance. Today is that chance. Possess it and you'll find true peace.

Savvy Market Masters, Your Visibility Specialists

2010-08-31T06:44:00.001-05:00

Another project that has had my attention almost nonstop is Savvy Market Masters, a book marketing agency that helps authors get the word out about their books.

The great thing about this company is the fun you have and the creativity you use. The sky is literally the limit when selling books. Between setting up blog tours, internet radio interview and pursuing real life marketing avenues (television, radio, print), there is so much room for the imagination to take flight.

I'm very proud of the company and the people I work with like Nichole Osborn and Chrishawn Simpson. I'm always delighted to help other authors since I've struggled with book sales myself in the past. But then, I stumbled upon something that changed my life, hence the business. We now have a website and a blog that's filled with info and insider tips. For more information, feel free to click the links.

Compassionate Healing Ministries International

2010-08-30T06:28:00.001-05:00

I've had a lot of projects going on lately. They keep me so busy that I actually get my days confused from time to time.

One of those projects is building the ministry my husband and I began. Compassionate Healing Ministries International is a nondenominational church with a vision to truly help people in every conceivable aspect of life. This isn't just a church, but it is a movement.

We now have a website and blog as well as a Facebook page that is growing by leaps and bounds. My husband and I are busy spreading the word and talking with other pastors for them to institute various programs in their church.

Think about how many times you've thought church would be much better if they had a powerful youth ministry, classes for the illiterate, classes for entrepreneurs, classes for marital help, training sessions in ministry and so forth? We all think it when we enter a ministry without all or some of these things in place. After nearly 10 years of helping other pastors, learning the best and worst of ministry, and being trained by some of the best ministers around, I knew it was time for us to do more. Please use the links above and visit our sites and pages. Bookmark our pages, Digg them and like our page on Facebook. We sincerely appreciate it.

Owning a Business

2010-08-23T15:22:00.000-05:00

In this economic downturn, many people are almost forced to find a second, if not first source of income. With hiring being sluggish nearly everywhere, most people are turning their skills into businesses. While this method is not without complications and hard work, it is the only option open to some.

Some of you know that I founded and served as VP of Living Waters Publishing Company until it was closed to the public. Now, I'm back in the saddle again with consulting and grantwriting, book marketing and publishing. For more information, please use the links above. I hope you will consider linking to our websites and blogs as we bring you more information and encouragement.

Interview with Transformation Specialist, Chrishawn Simpson

2010-08-20T06:55:00.000-05:00

I am very pleased to introduce you to another fabulous author who is going places and doing things. Chrishawn Simpson is a mother, business owner, author and web designer. She wears many hats. Let's hear from her in her own words. Enjoy the interview!

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Please tell a little about yourself.

Chrishawn Simpson: Let’s see, professionally, I am an author. I write across several genres - literary fiction, young adult fiction, inspirational, self-help books and I also dabble in poetry. I own two businesses, TransformYourPath.com and LiteraryPizazz.com. I am a Transformation Specialist. I help people, basically, to get off their butt and transform their path to make their life something great. I also help authors market themselves with media kits. Personally, I am a mom to a beautiful little boy, who keeps me extremely busy and constantly on the go. I have a simple life in Kentucky and that is fine with me. My main passion in life is to spread the word of God through my Transform Your Path program and through my books.

When did you know you wanted to become a writer and when did you begin to write?

Chrishawn Simpson: Actually, I was in my thirties when I got the urge to write. I had always written in journals and when I was younger, a couple friends and I would write ongoing stories based on our biggest star singer crushes at the time (Chico and El DeBarge). LOL. So 80s, I know. After going through many jobs and owning many businesses and not being fulfilled, I ventured out into writing. Writing was the one thing that I always thought about and envisioned myself doing. I actually began to write in about 2003,
when I started the now-retired magazine, Mom’s Big Little Helper. I stopped after that and picked it back up a couple of years ago.

What motivated you to write Broken Spirit?

Chrishawn Simpson: I wrote Broken Spirit because I really wanted to shed more light on the issue of child abuse. People just want to sweep it under the rug like it doesn’t happen, but that’s so far from the truth. People need to realize and understand the ramifications of what any kind of abuse can cause. I am writing Broken Spirit as a three-book series. The reader will read exactly what this little girl went through and how she is dealing with it as an adult. It’s a very real, painful subject. Children and people are dying every day
because of abuse? Why? Keeping this issue a secret isn’t going to help anybody.

Is there a specific message in your book that you want readers to grasp?

Chrishawn Simpson: Yes, yes, yes! The simple answer is that if you are enduring any type of abuse, please get help talk, talk to someone - don’t keep it a secret. The sooner you get help, the sooner you can start to restore your life.

How long did it take you to complete Broken Spirit?

Chrishawn Simpson: About a year and a half. It was difficult to write, but I got through it.

So, what’s next for Chrishawn, the author? What are you working on?

Chrishawn Simpson: I am working on a few of things right now. The second book in the Broken Spirit series - Shattered Spirit, a novel for young adults titled, Can Your Keep a Secret?, two edgy romance adult novels called Love is a Dangerous Thing and Epiphany, a novel called Brooklynn Rose, and a book of
Poetry (currently unnamed).

Where can readers find you and your books or how can they contact you?

Chrishawn Simpson: I love hearing from my readers! I can be found on my official author website at www.ChrishawnTheWriter.com. I am also very social on facebook and twitter. Check me out at:
http://www.facebook.com/chrishawn.simpson
http://www.twitter.com/Ms_Chrishawn
http://www.ChrissyConfidential.com

I also am a featured columnist on the blog, The Girl in the Middle. The first Thursday of every month is called Transformation Thursday and I feature an article on transformation, life balance, relationships, healthy living, and so on. You can check it out at http://www.TheGirlintheMiddle.wordpress.com.
Currently, all of my books can be purchased from ChrishawnTheWriter.com. Transform Your Path is also available on Amazon.com , BarnesandNoble.com and any bookstore can order it. I can be reached by email at cesimpson1@yahoo.com.

Excerpt from DIFFERENT ROADS by Joyce Scarbrough

2010-08-19T05:47:00.001-05:00

Today I have an extra special treat for you all. Below is an excerpt from Joyce Scarbrough's book, DIFFERENT ROADS. It's full of powerful emotion. Read and judge for yourself.

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She counted to ten, then she turned the knob and pushed open the door in one swift motion, running with her eyes closed after all. She’d thought she knew the exact location of every piece of worn-out furniture in the living room, but she forgot the gym bag she’d left in front of the couch and tripped over it at a full run, ending up sprawled in the middle of the floor with the breath knocked out of her.

Heedless of the pain in her chest and lungs, she scrambled across the floor on her hands and knees, the nightmare returning in a vivid rush. She couldn’t see anything, but she knew something horrible was there, hurting her with its monster hands as it got ready to eat her at any second. She curled herself into a ball and sobbed in terror and desolation, a six-year-old once again with no one to comfort her, wishing with all her might that her daddy would come and save her.

But he didn’t come, and Jaycee stayed that way until the room filled with the gray light of dawn. She climbed into her bed and lay shivering in the early-morning air, unable to sleep despite her exhaustion. Her body ached from her night on the floor, and she felt like an idiot because she hadn’t been able to overcome the fear. She pulled up the blanket to warm herself with her breath just as the door banged open, and her father stared at her from the doorway with red-rimmed, bloodshot eyes.

She peered at him over the edge of the blanket. “What the hell do you want?”

“Where is he, girl?” Jake asked. “Hiding under the blanket with you?”

Jaycee sighed. Shit, here we go again.

“There’s nobody here, Jake. I’ve been alone all night as usual.”

He staggered into the room and lunged toward the bed, reaching out to grab the covers and snatch them off. Jaycee tried to hold on, but her fingers were cold and it affected her grip.

“Why you still got all your clothes on?” he demanded. “You just get home?”

“You wouldn’t have to ask me that if you’d been here.” Jaycee hugged her arms around herself and shivered. “Leave me alone and go sleep it off, old man.”

Before she saw it coming, the back of his right hand connected with her cheekbone, then all she saw for a moment were bursts of light inside her head.

“Don’t call me an old man, you smart-mouthed little tramp! I can still whip your ass, and your horny little boyfriend’s too! Now where the hell is he?”

It was useless to argue with him when he was like this, so Jaycee just tried to protect her face with her arms. “He left, okay? He’s gone!”

Jake grabbed her by both arms and pulled her upright on the bed. “Didn’t I tell you not to bring him here no more? This is my house, and you ain’t playing your nasty little games under my roof!” His heavily muscled laborer’s arms shook her until her head wobbled on her neck. “I know what you do with him. I saw you that day I came home and found you with your hand in his pants and your tits in his face!”

Jaycee knew she would pay for her next words, but she said them anyway.

“And you can’t stand it because you wish it was you. Don’t you, Jake?”

He threw her backward and her head banged against the headboard, setting off more lights behind her eyes. Before her vision had time to clear, Jaycee knew a blow was coming because she heard him taking off his belt, so she pulled up her legs in defense.

“You shut your dirty mouth!” he yelled as he swung the belt. “Don’t you ever talk to me like that, I’m your father!”

Jaycee had been covering her face with her arms as the belt struck her over and over, but she lifted her head and caught the belt in her hand.

“But that’s what makes it so bad, Jake! My own father drooling over me worse than the boys at school. You think I don’t see you looking at me, hoping to get a peek at something every time I reach up or bend over? Well, here’s an eyeful for you, old man! Have yourself a good look!”

She pulled up her shirt and exposed her breasts. Jake gasped and dropped the belt to cover his eyes.

“You filthy little slut,” he said through his tears. “Lying little whore.”

“Don’t try to deny it, Jake. If I’m lying, then why do you have that world-class boner?”

He looked down at the protrusion in his work pants and let out a choked sob, then he turned and ran from the room. Jaycee got off the bed and picked up the belt, throwing it out the door behind him.

“That’s right! Run away and hide, you perverted old man! And don’t come near me again or I’ll write something to tell the whole town how you get your jollies!” She slammed the door and locked it, then she threw herself on the bed and curled into a ball.

Well, she’d gotten what she’d wished for all night. Her daddy had finally come home.

Positive Confessions 6

2010-08-18T07:43:00.001-05:00

I am the lender and not the borrower. My debts are paid. I am the lender and not the borrower.

JoJo Tabares' Breakthrough Book, SAY WHAT YOU MEAN

2010-08-18T06:26:00.000-05:00

We have a special treat for the shy guys and gals out there today. JoJo Tabares' book, Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety, has been making waves. We are going to introduce you to it today and hope that many of you will get it and find the help you need to be a better communicator.

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It took me many painful YEARS to overcome my shyness. I once thought it was part of my personality and that I was destined to be shy and lonely for the rest of my life. I was wrong! Shyness is usually just social anxiety brought on by a lack of effective communication skills in social situations. Once I learned these vital skills, I found I wasn't shy at all! And what's more, you're probably not either!

Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety takes you through my painful struggle and teaches you to overcome your social anxiety in a fraction of the time. Even better, it allows you to do so in a creative and fun way. I have a surprise for all you who feel painfully shy too! This eCourse can take you from social anxiety to social butterfly! Yes. This eBook will not only give you the tools to become more comfortable in social situations, but it will take you through mastery and on to execllence!

For more information on JoJo and her book, visit her site, Art of Eloquence.

Helpers One Towards Another

2010-08-17T13:00:00.000-05:00

I was sitting here, wishing that I could be of financial support to my brothers and sisters that are on a mission of Kingdom Business. At the present I'm not able but know that one day soon I will have my hearts desire. As I pondered this in my heart I realized that we MUST be helpers one to the other - if you cant support financially, there is always time and effort where you can help promote to the best of your knowledge. Which I try to do here and there.

To whom much is given much is required and there are some of our brothers and sisters that God has given much and it takes those that have less responsibility to bear up those that have much. I must say that I am very thankful and impressed by many that support Lacresha in her endeavors for the Kingdom - a very faithful group of people and God will bless you abundantly for doing so.

Just wanted to encourage those that are to continue and those that aren't to do so - whosoever it may be that God place on your heart to support, please do so - those that are able to support in finance do so and WATCH GOD and those that are not financially able at the present do so in your time and ability and WATCH GOD! I stand on the day that I will be able to support financially as well with my time and ability all those that God places on my heart to do so and you stand just the same.

You cant help those that don't help themselves and don't care to help themselves but we have no excuse not to help those that are applying the Word of God and about their Father's business!

Launch of a New Blog

2010-08-11T06:23:00.001-05:00

I'd like to announce the launch of a new blog. We have started a blog specifically for book marketing and authors. Please go by and check it out and give us a follow. Help us spread the word too. The blog address is http://savvymarketmasters.blogspot.com. Thanks for your support.

Keep Encouraging Each Other

2010-08-10T23:36:00.000-05:00

"But encourage one another day after day as long as it is still called 'Today' lest any of you be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin." Hebrews 3:13

One of the things that I have appreciated through the years is people who have been an encouragement to me in my life. Many of them did something as small as a smile on a day that I was feeling down or gave me a note telling me that they were praying for me. One dear sister in Christ sent me a check in the mail telling me that God had placed me on her heart that day. All of these special things came to me when I least expected them. Likewise there have been people who thought they were encouraging me but it seemed like their words were harsh. It felt like they had decided to put a target on my back and lambast me for my mistakes in life. Not too long ago I heard of a person who was going through a traumatic event in her life. Someone decided to blast that person by telling her that her decisions were wrong. I'm sure this dear soul thought they were being an encouragement, but their words only hurt the intended victim, I mean woman. The writer of Hebrews says that we should encourage each other as long as it's still Today--meaning that we should do it constantly or we run the risk of being hardened by the cunningness of sin. One of the little sayings I heard from another speaker is something that I try to remember. When I'm trying to encourage I need to THINK. Is what I'm saying:

Truthful-is what you're saying honest?
Helpful-will it help the situation?
Inspiring-will it inspire the intended?
Necessary-do you really have to say it?
Kind-are you saying it to be kind? Could it be said better?
I pray that my words are encouraging to each reader. God bless you!

This Isn't For Everybody, Only the Hurting People

2010-08-09T08:09:00.000-05:00

Ever felt worthless? This note is for you!

This morning I woke up thinking about my past, the mistakes I've made, and how unlikely it would seem that God would want to use me, a huge screw up according to history, to be a role model for anyone. But that is the beauty and power of God.

God is infinite in power and might, sovereign in His doings. He doesn't need a person who believes in their own goodness and righteousness. After all, why would they give HIM glory for turning them around if in their own mind, they already had their lives together? No. God is always calling those lost, lonely, hurting souls to himself, those who feel useless, worthless, powerless, unwanted, unloved, unappreciated. Sure, He takes all kinds, but the Bible teaches us that not MANY wise, noble, educated, "all that" people are called, but that God calls the foolish, base, nothing things of the world to bring to nothing the things that are so that NO FLESH CAN GLORY IN HIS SIGHT! (Read 1 Corinthians 1)

So, what point am I making? You may feel useless and worthless. You may have slept around so much that you've forgotten some of the people's names. You may have been a whore, a stripper, a pimp, a player, a drug dealer, a drug addict, a low life, a thief, a hood, a hustler, a liar, a robber, a fake, a simpleton, an abused woman, a used up man, or an abandoned child. Whatever you WERE, God is ready to turn it around and set you on a high place. You can't get too low for God because His arms aren't so shortened that they can't reach you. You can't bother him with your prayers because His ear is never too heavy to hear you.

I pray that you don't allow condemnation, past mistakes and the judgmental glare of others to turn you away from God. I pray that you learn to accept that a horrible beginning sometimes is all that is needed for a blessed end. Me personally, for those who saw this "house" in the beginning (sex, lies and videotape), it was a hot horrible mess. But how do you see it now? Isn't it just a testimony of God's grace and power? Just because I live and breathe, because I'm still beautiful after being abused, because I'm still intelligent after dropping out of school the first time, because I own my own businesses and excel over almost all my equals though I don't have a Master's degree, because I have an unbelievably patient and loving husband though I used to hate men, because I am yet loved, called and justified by God though I've sinned repeatedly since I met Him, because I remain standing after all is said and done, because my heavenly Father testifies that I make Him smile, THIS IS PROOF of His unfailing love and mercy and unlimited power.

Therefore my brothers and sisters, be strong in the LORD and the power of HIS might. Lift up your eyes and look to the hills from where you help comes. Trust in the Lord and acknowledge Him in all your ways. Your path is being directed because we know and understand that a man's heart devises a way but the Lord directs His steps. Though he may end up falling seven times or seven hundred times, he'll get back up every one of them. Stop thinking it's over because you screwed up. This, dear friends, is just the beginning. Maybe now you'll stop thinking you're so wonderful and realize you need Him. When you DO THAT, all of heaven will open to you. Amen.

So Many Updates

2010-08-08T06:53:00.011-05:00

There's so much going on in my life right now. I hardly know where to start to update you all. Basically, I'm off my walker, hopefully for good. So, I've seen some improvement with my health, but I am still suffering from chronic pain, seizures, vision problems and sleep problems. Still, improvement in one area gives me faith to see improvement in others.

I've also been fortunate enough to have friends come along to help my husband and I rebuild our businesses, Lanico Media House and Savvy Market Masters, the right way, with plenty of help and so that it isn't mostly reliant upon me. So, I have a lot of work to do there to prepare for success. I've tasted failure before and don't plan to go back that route. The one lesson I learned is that business is teamwork. You need a team before you take off in business, people who know what they are doing and can cover you when you can't be there. FINALLY, we have that.

Lastly, I'm writing regularly again. For awhile I didn't think I'd be able to continue writing at the pace I used to but thankfully they took me off some of the medication that kept me constantly high and out of it. So, long story short, Lacresha Hayes is coming back this way, bless God. Spending today in praise and worship and so happy about it.

Don't Let Fear Stop You

2010-08-03T06:09:00.001-05:00

Most people go their whole lives afraid to step out on faith and try something new, different or daring. Like most people, I find myself sometimes afraid of change, afraid of failure, and afraid of rejection. Nevertheless, there's this thing inside me (determination from the Holy Spirit) that has never let fear hinder me. I find myself doing it afraid.

When I first started my first business, Living Waters Publishing Company, I was scared and nervous. I had way too many advisors. I made a hundred mistakes. Then I fell upon hard times with my health and could not continue. When I started my second business, Christian Consulting Company, I was afraid to try to expand it and make it all that it could be so it was closely held. I didn't allow myself to grow. I was always afraid of the next episode of illness. I didn't want to default on loans or contracts. So, I served only the churches I knew personally.

After years of being in the business world, I've seen so many people languish out of fear of moving forward. Today I want to encourage you to invest yourself fully in your dreams and goals. If you make a mistake, admit it, learn from it and move on. If you fail at your first attempt, evaluate what went wrong and start again. I believe the fate worse than failure is dying without ever having tried to make your dreams a reality.

My point- don't be afraid, but if you are afraid, don't allow that fear to stop you from moving forward! Keep your heart in the hands of the Lord and ask Him to replace your fear with faith.

Enjoy Every Day Life

2010-08-02T12:40:00.000-05:00

This will be a short post but I felt it important to share simply because the enemy is a joy stealer and he seeks daily to kill, steal and destroy us. But if we are aware of this, we will learn to enjoy life as it comes leaving him no power to take our smile nor our laughter.

I was just sitting here thinking about my family and other things that bring great joy to my life and I realized overall I truly enjoy my everyday life. I'm thankful to God for allowing such joy in my life from the smallest of things to the greatest. As you go through each day find and be grateful for all the things that God has placed in it to bring you joy. Although we may be dealing with health issues, emotional issues and or the stress of finance there is always something that God has put in our day to cause us great joy it's just up to us to receive it.

Dearly beloved, from this day forth I encourage you to stay on top of your day - you know the joy stealer is lurking in the corners of darkness just waiting to pounce on your day, well by knowing this have your ambushes of joy ready to send him running with his tail between his legs (excuse my language, lol). Enjoy GOD, your family, friends, gifts, talents, gifts, etc. - ENJOY EACH DAY IN SPITE OF!!!

True Friendship and Love

2010-07-29T02:14:00.000-05:00

"This is my commandment that you love one another, just as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you." John 15:12-14

Recently I have known people that have gone through tremendous difficulties and pain. It kind of reminds me of when Job was going through his tough times and his "friends" attacked him and told him that he had sinned against God; this was why, according to him that he was in the situation he was in. Of course, we have the whole story and we know that God was not punishing Job.

This passage of scripture says that a true friend is one who will lay down his life for his friends like Christ did. We are God's friends if we do what He commands us to do. What should our response be when someone we know is going through a rough time? One solution is to pray for them and with them, sincerely. A second response is to ask what they would like us to do. Many times the friend is only looking for someone to vent to. Thirdly watch for opportunities. You might see that they need something as small as bringing a meal, or giving free babysitting. You will not only be serving them, but you will be serving God.

Sharing From An Open Heart

2010-07-25T07:26:00.001-05:00

When you have an open heart, it's easy to get wrapped up in the lives of others. You want to see them succeed. You want them to make it. You want them to be happy. But, just because you want something doesn't mean you'll get it when it concerns the well-being of someone else. And if we invest too much, we can find ourselves sucked into this dark emotional void when Christ came to give us an abundant life full of joy, an unspeakable joy.

The trick to loving others without destroying yourself is to understand that we all have decisions to make. No one gets it right always. Some people are going to hear you. Some won't. Don't be discouraged or depressed. Just keep right own loving and praying for others.

As an ordained elder, I know the trials and hardships of living a godly life and carrying this beautiful Gospel. It's not always easy, but keep the faith and keep sharing your love with others even as God continues to share His love with us.

Terrified to Think of What Might Be Coming

2010-07-22T10:23:00.000-05:00

This may not be at all popular and God knows I've waited to say anything about it, but there's this uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach about this topic.

It seems lately that the more psychologists study human behavior and give it titles, calling it treatable or not, the closer we get to a place none of us in our right minds want to be. Let me start with this disclaimer. I am by no means a hater of homosexuals. I don't agree with homosexual marriage, but I equally disagree with mistreating people because of their sexual preference. A homosexual's sin is no worst than the sin of a liar. And who hasn't told a few of those in life? So please don't take this as judgmental.

Most professionals do not consider homosexuality to be treatable, unless it started in jail or late in life after heart breaks. They say that homosexuals cannot help but be how they are, that they are born that way. As a result, in some places homosexual rights are compared to that of being black, or Asian, or Hispanic. We have homosexuals coming out of the closet all the time, when personally I don't see the need for it. Our bedrooms have become all too public for something that should be guarded and held as deeply personal for the homo or heterosexual.

By the same token, another evil has crept up on us. Those who molest children and view and make kiddie porn are now saying that they were born with these feelings of desiring children rather than adults. There are psychologists out there studying those we call perverts today, trying to figure out what makes them tick, if they can help themselves and if their condition is treatable. It scares the bejesus out of me to think that 20 years from now my children and yours might have to vote on whether to allow old ancient men to marry young girls, and then young boys, or old women to do the same.

I am by no means saying that molesting children and being attracted to your own sex are equal in the eyes of society, though for sure they are in the eyes of God. Of course, sex before marriage is right there equal with them too in God's eyes. What I am saying is that we must be careful what tools we use as a society because our weapon of choice today might be our destruction tomorrow. We must learn to view some things as they really are- simply a choice. We choose to act upon feelings we have, whether to deny them or fulfill them. We make the decision and as such should bare the consequences without a lot of excuses. For instance, when I was severely ill many years ago and living with my mom who was also severely ill, I made a decision to write bad checks for medication. Was that the right thing to do? Heck no! But I did it and the probation and fines are a result of that. I can't blame it on society or how I was raised or anything else. I made a decision. I don't need an excuse. I was wrong.

I pray that those reading this will learn the power of "I was wrong." and not continue to look for excuses for our choices. We don't want to start something we cannot finish.

PRAYER & ENCOURAGEMENT FOR YOU

2010-07-20T09:52:00.000-05:00

NUMBERS 6:24-26

(24) The LORD bless thee, and keep thee;

(25) The LORD make His face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:

(26) The LORD lift up His countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

Whatever it is that you must face on today, know that the Lord is on your side and He will put no more on you than you can bear. He's the heavy load bearer so turn it over and let Him/God handle all that you must face today and every day after. Remember, God allowed the thing to happen, therefore He ALREADY has the answer and the solution to it. Be encouraged even the more dear hearts for there are more with and for you than there are against you ~ HAVE A BLESSED DAY!

Deeper Love

2010-07-15T14:53:00.000-05:00

Sometimes, it's not enough to say you love someone. We all know this because we've experienced times when the words didn't satisfy us. We wanted the actions. We wanted something tangible to prove the professed love.

Most people are completely clueless about real love and what they means. Many are shallow and don't understand that love ALWAYS requires a sacrifice. Love means giving, sharing, understanding, showing mercy and forgiving things before even being asked to do so. These are the things you do when you love. We have long tried to make love a million easier things that it isn't, and later on live to regret it. What am I saying?

Today is another day in which you can make a decision about how you're going to interact with your family and those around you. You can decide to love people the right way, making room for their imperfections as you would want them to do for you. Or, you can continue on with that emptiness inside that is crying out to give and receive something. The choice is yours, but for sure, there's no use saying you love God if you can't, don't and won't love people.

Satisfaction for A Weary Soul

2010-07-14T08:58:00.000-05:00

John 4:13-14 - Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: (14) But whosoever drinketh of the water that i shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

When one is thirsty or dehydrated, it doesn't matter how many other fluids you drink only water will quench that thirst. Christ alone is the only water that can revive our parched spirit. He's the bread that nourishes our hungry hearts, and only His truth can answer our mind's deepest questions and thoughts. Real Satisfaction to the soul is found only in Christ, seek Him today!

Many of us become parched or dehydrated in our soul as we deal with different issues on a daily basis. There are times we become weary, tired, frustrated and we even feel like giving up at times but we have but to remember to drink from the Well that never runs dry. Scripture tells us not to be weary in well doing for WE SHALL REAP if we faint not. It ALL shall come to pass, (the businesses, the healing, the ministry, the books, the Cd's, etc) all that God has shown but it's important that we take one day at a time, and we MUST drink of that water that Jesus has to offer and nights end for this helps us to be refreshed for the next day's journey.

* Jesus is the Water of Life that is able to quench all of your life's thirsts, drink as much as you please for His well never runs dry!

Why are you so down?

2010-07-12T16:03:00.000-05:00

"Why are you in despair, o my soul? And why have you become disturbed within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him." Psalm 42:11

The past couple weeks have been challenging ones for me. Something that I thought was going to happen didn't and I to say that I was disappointed is an understatement. I spent several days in a funk. Even my husband couldn't get me out of it. I pouted, I screamed and cried. I've seen small children respond better to having their toys taken away than I did, but the great thing about God is that He's still there urging us on and loving us despite our moods. He's not like some people who avoid us when we're crabby and down. He's there. I'm so glad that He is! He's waiting for us now. All we have to do is run to Him and praise Him.

~ NEVERTHELESS I GIVE GOD THANKS ~

2010-07-07T08:46:00.000-05:00

There are some situations and circumstances in our life that make us stand back and say, "I don't see anything to give God thanks for". When it comes to daily life issues, thanking God is usually not at the top of the list, (just keeping it real), yes it comes once we realize that it's our of our control or we realize that we can't deal with it without God but TRUTH BE TOLD - It's not easy thanking God when dealing with grief, heartache, pain in the body, rape, sexual and mental abuse, etc., etc., etc. but when we LEARN to step aside of self and just begin to THANK GOD for ALL things good or bad, happy or sad we realize that it is definitely worth it!

Psalm 26:7 - That i may publish with the voice of thanksgiving, and tell of all thy wondrous works.

Psalm 95:2 - Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.

Amos 4:5 - and offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving with leaven, and proclaim and publish the free offerings: for this liketh you, O ye children of Israel, saith the Lord God.

Philippians 4:6 - Be careful for nothing: but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

Colossians 4:2 - Continue in prayer, and watch in the same with thanksgiving;

Ephesians 5:20 - Giving thanks ALWAYS for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Turn your frown upside down by giving God THANKS in all things, whether good, bad or ugly ~ we have to, it's part of our survival process!

A Word of Prayer

2010-07-03T07:11:00.000-05:00

Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask forgiveness for everything that I have said, thought and done that is against your will. Create in me a clean heart O God and renew a constant spirit within me. Cleanse me and make me whole. I thank you for allowing your people to see a whole new day, I pray that we walk in it according to your Perfect Will.

Father, go through out this entire world and grant every petition and prayer request as your Perfect Will allows. Increase your Wisdom, Knowledge, Understanding, Revelation and Obedience of your Word
in my life and the lives of others, that we may know and be comforted in all of your decisions. Father I am mere flesh that at times tend to forget that you, THE ALMIGHTY GOD, knows what's best for me and the lives of our family members. Continue to watch over us keeping us safe from all hurt, harm and danger and surround us with your protecting angels that no harm nor evil come nigh unto us.

I bind all that is not like you in our lives and therefore it is bound in Heaven and I loose your SPIRIT in the lives of your people so we dont become entangled in the snares and traps of the enemy. Teach us Father to lean and depend on you even the more, knowing that you have everything in control. In your Word it tells us that you will never leave us nor forsake us, and for this I am thankful and give you the Most Highest Praise - Hallelujah, in your precious Son Jesus name, Amen, Amen and Amen!

PRAYING THAT YOU ALL HAVE A SAFE, BLESSED, PROSPEROUS AND FULFILLED HOLIDAY WEEKEND!

The Return

2010-06-29T07:00:00.002-05:00

Sometimes, just like everything else in our lives, our lives themselves need to be redesigned. Sometimes, we get off course and forget the way. Things interrupt our lives. Pressure is applied to our belief system. Problems challenge us down to the core, and at times, we respond terribly. At times, we forget the promises we were once given. At times, we lose sight of the goals we once had. At times, we forget who we really are. And after so much of that, we wake up and find ourselves way off course. Those are the times we have to return to the basic tenants of our faith, the core of our belief system, the values that make us who we are. And then, we have to cleave to those things tightly once again to be guided back to the path we should be on.

Can't speak for everyone, but that is where I find myself right now- I am looking back to the beginning and returning to my first love and adhering to the things that once saved me because those same things will save me again and again.

JOYFUL, JOYFUL

2010-06-28T09:38:00.000-05:00

Neh. 8:10 Then he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; for the joy of the Lord is your strength. [KJV]

~ When things seem uncertain & times seem hard, just remember that the JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH! ~

We gain strength by having joy. Joy is our source of strength and that's why the enemy attacks in this area so often, in hopes that he can get us in a weak state, and pounce but the devil is a liar! The Joy of the Lord brings happiness, good attitudes, a stable mind and all of the above. Continue in prayer, have relationship with the Father and meditate on His Word and Joy shall come.

God has promised Eternal Life to all those who receive His Son Christ, this alone will bring Joy! I love these lyrics and they are true from day to day: I still have joy, still have joy, after all the things I've been through, I still have Joy.

~ If being joyful brings strength, then why are so many weak? Re-evaluate your Joy today! ~

Prayer : Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you fulfill your Joy in me that I might have the strength to complete the race in which I was called. I thank you for all that you have done in, through and for me and my family. I proclaim that I am victorious in Jesus name, for I am: Blessed and not Cursed, Happy and not Sad, More than a Conqueror and not Defeated, I AM A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD! I thank you and give you ALL OF THE GLORY, HONOR & PRAISE in your precious Son Jesus name, Amen, amen and amen!

Someone to Hope In

2010-06-25T08:02:00.000-05:00

"Through the Lord's mercies we are not consumed, because His mercies fail not. They are new every morning. Great is thy faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul. Therefore I hope in Him. The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him. " Lamentations 3:22-25
In the past several months, I have adopted the verses from Lamentations 3:22-23 as my life verse because no matter what I have experienced in my life, God has shown His faithfulness time and time again. So many times I never looked at the verses following those two wonderful nuggets of truth, but today I need them. Just to fill you in on the past week or so of my life, I have said goodbye to a loved one and I have witnessed the ending of a marriage in the life of someone I care about; not to mention other issues in my life right now which I can't share. Satan seems to be attacking me and my spirit has been pretty low. Take note: any time that things start to look up for God, Satan will be trying to steal your joy! I look at verse 24 and 25 and this really gives me hope! God is my portion. Not only that, but He is good to His children. No one can steal my joy unless I give it up willingly. God is stronger and can be counted on to carry me and to carry you through whatever you're going through today. I just need to go to Him and ask for Him to take me through. I may not always get around the trial or situation, but God promised to get me through it. Now that is something to hang on to!

CONTINUING IN SPITE OF DIFFICULTY!

2010-06-24T08:02:00.000-05:00

Just want to share a little testimony this morning. For some strange reason my sinuses has been really bad for the past week. I've been having hard time sleeping at night and napping during the day due to my breathing and I'm not sure why. It seems as though I'm having anxiety attacks but I know that I'm not, well Tuesday night I started getting a headache and I know if it doesn't subside that it would become a migraine. By yesterday morning the migraine was in full effect. I suffer with migraines due to a cyst in my sinus cavity and to have the cyst removed could cause me to have an aneurysm, so my Dr. don't want to risk it.

I was in some serious pain ALL yesterday to the point of any light causing the pain to get worse, but I still thank God in all things. Let me get to the topic at hand, I had decided to just lay in bed still all day, as this was the only way I could get just a little relief and as I lay there LACRESHA came to mind. I thought of her many testimonies, here many illnesses and how SHE CONTINUES IN SPITE OF HER DIFFICULTIES and this gave me strength to press a little further. Lacresha is dealing with more than one illness at this present (believing for her complete healing) but she refuse to let them get the best of her, although she's still struggling with these illnesses, she defeats them on a daily basis by continuing in spite of her difficulty. One post, one testimony, encouragement to one person causes her to be victorious. After all of this was revealed to me, I went to bible study in spite of the pain, I completed some Ministry work in spite of the pain and last night I got more writing done in pain than I've done feeling just fine, lol - it's true.

I encourage each of you today to continue in spite of your difficulty, some may be dealing with worse obstacles than others but don't let it paralyze you like my migraine tried to do me, get up and get to work. I had to work laying down in bed from time to time but I still got it done. Whatever it is you're dealing with today, know that it's just an obstacle, something to hold you back from continuing to your purpose - go ahead and Continue In Spite of your Difficulty, it's worth it! Praying your day is blessed beyond measure.

Continue to Pray for our dear Sister Lacresha, for she is CLAY IN THE MASTER'S HANDS, God is making and molding her all the more and we know that she will come out as PURE GOLD but pray that God continues to strengthen her body, refresh her spirit and renew her mind in all that she is dealing with at this present. Have a blessed day everyone!

Come Unto Me

2010-06-21T09:28:00.000-05:00

God puts no more on us than we can bear, we do a good job of that ourselves.........

Matthew 11:28-30 (28) Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. (29) Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. [KJV]

What seems hard and heavy to us is easy and light in GOD! There are some things we just can't carry without the help of the Lord. Trust God to carry your heavy load, to strengthen you and give you rest in your time of need.

God is with us: For better & for worse, in sickness & health, through the good & bad, happy or sad - it doesn't matter what the case may be just know that when we allow Him to carry our heavy load, the burdens that seem to be trying to destroy us - we will find a rest that is so peaceful, in the midst of what we're going through.

His Grace is Enough

2010-06-21T09:25:00.003-05:00

"And He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you. For my strength is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities that the power of Christ may rest upon me."2 Corinthians 12:9

"For I know that my Redeemer lives. And He shall stand at last on the earth; and after my skin is destroyed, this I know, That in my flesh I shall see God." Job 19:25-26


  I don't think there is anyone on earth who enjoys going through physical pain, distress, loss of job, family, dreams or hopes or any other situation that might come their way. I know that I don't. It seems as though recently I have been in contact with more and more people who are going through things that they don't understand and how they deal with those things astounds me. I am humbled by the way some people handle the most horrendous times of their lives with grace and dignity. I heard of a woman recently who has lost family and health and yet still remains true to Christ even in her darkest of hours stating that there is always someone worse off than herself.
  Job lost everything. He lost all of his property, his family and his health and yet his faith in God's grace to sustain him during this time is a testament to his faith in God. In the end, he is rewarded with double blessing.
  Sometimes God doesn't restore our health or lives the way that we would want Him to, yet He promises that His grace will get us through. No matter what we are going through today, we can trust in His strength. His strength is perfect in all areas of our lives.

Using My Setbacks as a Comeback

2010-06-17T08:42:00.000-05:00

LET YOUR SETBACKS LEAD YOU FORWARD INTO THE DESTINY

GOD HAS PURPOSED FOR YOU!

Psalm 119:71
It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes. [KJV]

I don't know what you may be going through or dealing with at the present, but I do know that when we suffer with Christ (for the sake of the Ministry), we shall also reign with Him. Some of you may be dealing with financial problems, sickness, family problems, marital problems, whatever the case may be I encourage you to hang on and see the blessing in it. I know it's easier said than done but trust me it can be done!

Our afflictions are only there to make us stronger and to take us to the next level and it will do just that when we approach them in the correct manner. There will be pain, tears and even some sleepless nights but I can promise you that there will come a time of rest from all of the affliction that we must endure.

Learn and grow from your afflictions, don't give in to them as if there is no hope. Start using your SETBACKS as an OPPORTUNITY for your COMEBACK!

A Good Recipe for Life

2010-06-16T11:56:00.000-05:00

"Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in Him. And He shall bring it to pass. He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light and your justice as the noonday. Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret because of him who prospers in the way." Psalms 37:3-7

Yesterday I shared some thoughts from Psalm 37:1-2 about not fretting over evildoers, which for me is easier said than done. Today, I would like to share some further thoughts that might be considered a recipe for having a successful life in Christ. These are things that God tells us to do to have a fulfilling life in Him.

Trust vs 3- To place your confidence into- to depend on the Lord and to do good. When you are trusting, it's easier to do good because you are trusting in the promises that God has given.

Delight vs 4-To enjoy the Lord. It's very much like a relationship with someone you care for. You take delight in them. You want to be with them. It says in Psalms that God will give you the desires of your heart. God wants to give you all your desires. When you delight in Him, those desires become like His.

Commit vs 5- Promise Him-give them to Him. He can handle them for you. He will take care of Life's injustices.

Rest vs 6- Relax and wait patiently for God. He is in charge and He will take care of you. For me this is awesome. I'm not a patient person and it's difficult for me to trust, yet I know that if I do all of these things that my walk with God gets stronger. I also find that though I still see evil happening around me, that I can feel confident of God's strength and that He will take care of any and all of my concerns.

Don't Fret!

2010-06-15T09:23:00.000-05:00

"Do not fret because of evildoers. Nor be envious of the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb." Psalm 37:1-2.

Do you ever get frustrated with the success of evil people? Does it seem to you that even if someone evil gets caught doing bad that they still come out on top? Do you ever feel angry that some people get blessing after blessing and success after success while it seems like you have to struggle for everything you have and it seems like sometimes those blessings appear few and far between? I know. I've been there and it's still a struggle for me. God wants us to know that even though it seems like He's not looking, He really is and that even though justice doesn't seem like it's served at the time, God's true justice is coming. Evil will be punished! That's a wonderful thought. Right now it seems that evil is winning. We look at the newspapers and see people doing horrific things to people with little punishment. We see people in business making questionable business decisions. God sees it all and He says that the wicked will be cut down suddenly and they will wither like the grass. Their success is only for a moment. But, if we know Christ, we will live forever with Him and that to me is worth more than anything here on earth!

BEING TRULY BLESSED

2010-06-14T08:16:00.000-05:00

Blessed - to be happy, at peace, favor, FULLY SATISFIED, invocation of good,

It also indicates the state of the believer in Christ - he is indwelt by God because of Christ and as a result he is FULLY SATISFIED and worthy to be well spoken of. In the biblical sense, a blessed person is one whom God makes fully satisfied, not because of favorable circumstances but because He indwells the believer through Christ.

I've heard so many define being blessed because of material possessions, while there is nothing wrong with material possessions they are not the foundation of one being blessed. Material things come and they go, so how can this be considered being blessed - once it's gone will one still consider themselves blessed? Not likely.

My husband, Apostle Patrick Sutton often says that, He'd rather be blessed than look blessed! Meaning that he doesn't mind the finer things in life but only as God wills for those things are temporal, but he desires the things of God, which are everlasting. (Proverbs 10:22 - The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and He addeth no sorrow with it).

You know that you are blessed when you have a peace of mind, you're content when you have and when you don't have, because being blessed is not based upon stuff - stuff (material possessions) are merely a benefit that God gives to all for He reign on the just and the unjust, but only those who have come to the FULL KNOWLEDGE of the FATHER, SON and HOLY SPIRIT can be TRULY BLESSED! Why? Because Jesus was truly blessed, He didn't depend on man nor stuff to make Him happy, it didn't take material things to make Him FULLY SATISFIED. Think about it, He had nothing materialistic attached to him, He was born in a Manager ALL for the GLORY OF GOD! There was nothing man could take away and nothing made Him happier than fulfilling the WILL and PURPOSE of His heavenly Father. Man didn't even have the power to take His life, they didn't give it, therefore they couldn't take it. Jesus laid down His life for the Glory of the Father and to redeem man back to His Father.

If we expect to be TRULY BLESSED, we must realize and come to the full knowledge of Philippians 1:21 - For me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. Knowing that your very life isn't your own, dying to self pleasure and self will daily. In doing so one can experience being blessed beyond measure, you will realize that material possessions cannot and will never make one fully satisfied but it's the Christ that dwells on the inside, which cause you to be THANKFUL and HAPPY in ALL THINGS.

In ALL that I've been through in my life, it's when I see God guiding me through each storm that I realize JUST HOW TRULY BLESSED I AM! I know that He will never leave us nor forsake us. Continue to hold on and don't look at the situation because looks are deceiving but focus on the problem solver!

WE HAVE A NEW LOOK- It's Celebration Time!

2010-06-11T07:42:00.000-05:00

We have a new look to celebrate our transition into being a blog specifically dedicated to strengthening the inner person, showing you how to be pretty on the inside, prosperous in your mentality and powerful to your outside world by being all that God created you to be.

But there is no beauty to be had outside of God. It is by our daily prayers and reflections that we find the strength to conquer our inner demons and be free from the bondage of our own thinking and other people's opinions. Blog P3 celebrates YOU and all that means to be YOU.

Today, we realize that loving God also means loving ourselves and reflecting that same love to others.

God's Handiwork

2010-06-09T11:06:00.001-05:00

Romans 9:20-21 "But indeed, o man, who are you to reply against God? will the thing formed say to him who formed it, 'why have you made me like this?' Does not the potter have power over the clay from the same lump to make one vessel for honor and another for dishonor?"

I think I first started to have issues with my appearance when I was in junior high. Everyone in my inner circle had perfectly straight hair and equally perfect teeth. I on the other hand had naturally curly(more frizz than curl I thought) hair and extremely crooked teeth. To make matters worse, I walked pigeon-toed and that made me an easy target to be made fun of. I remember trying to straighten my hair in any way I could to fit in with my peers. I hated being different from everybody else. Sadly, my natural curly waves have mostly waved good-bye and my teeth are still imperfect. I weigh more than I want to. Years of physical and emotional wear and tear have taken their toll on my body. I miss being the size 12 that I hated being in high school. I'd give anything to be there. Maybe someday I will be. That time is not now, however.

Isn't that just like us though? We try so hard to be someone we're not. We don't realize that it's God who made us the way we are for His own reasons. No two of us are exactly alike. God has a purpose for each and everyone of us and each one of us is valued in His sight. My challenge is this. Think for a moment of what you hate the most about your appearance today. God made you that way for a purpose. Maybe that purpose is to be used in some way for Him. Give that frustration to Him today.

BEING WHAT GOD WANT'S ME TO BE

2010-06-08T11:58:00.000-05:00

CONTENT - self satisfaction

Philippians 4:11 - Not that I speak in Respect of want: for I haved learned, in whatsoever stat I am, therewith to be content. (God want us to learn to be content in every situation, whether good or bad, happy or sad. We are not to be complainers, but satisfied in whatever state we're in until God himself make the changes needed.)

COURAGEOUS - Strength, mighty, strong
Psalm 31:24 - Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord. (Be strong in the power of God's might, when we are weak (fleshly man) then God can be strong in us (Spiritual man). God did not give us the spirit of fear but of a sound mind. We've got to be sure in our spirit, mind and heart that the battle is already won. God has given us everything we need to be strong and mighty in His name. If God is with us there's nothing that you cant do.)

COURTEOUS - Friendly, kind
1 Peter 3:8 - Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous. (We are to draw one another with love and kindness (Jer. 31:3), be friendly to one another whether saint or sinner. Our friendliness should show the Love of God that dwells on the inside of us. We are to walk, talk, act and treat others the way that Jesus treats us.)

DILIGENT - Quick, skillful, hasty, ready
Proverbs 22:29 - Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men. (We must be quick, skillful and ready when it comes to doing a work for the Lord. A slothful man will cause ruin to himself and an unlearned man will constantly make foolish mistakes. In all your getting, get understanding of God's Word and of your calling for your gift will make room for you if you're diligent in and with it. Our diligence will take us before kings. If you're lacking diligence ask of God that you may receive and be pleasing in His sight, not in some things but in all.

DOERS - to perform
James 1:22 - But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.

FAITHFUL - Trustworthy, to believe, to be sure, to be true
Revelation 2:10 - Fear none of those things, which thou shalt suffe; behold, the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful into death, and I will give thee a crown of life.

GLAD - Joyful, gleeful, merry, rejoice
Psalm 32:11 - Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, ye righteousness; and shout for joy, all ye that are upright in heart.

HOLY - Sure, Pure, consecrate
Titus 1:8 - But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate.

MERCIFUL - Tender, compassionate
Luke 6:36 - Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.

STRONG - Empower, enable, strength
Ephesians 6:10 - Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of His might.

THANKFUL - to praise, worship
Psalm 100:4 - Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise; be thankful unto him and bless his name.

WISE - Wisdom, wise in mind, word and deed
Proverbs 1:5-6 - a wise man will hear and will increase learining; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels; (6) To understand a proverb and the interpretation; the words of the wise and their dark sayings.

Melissa

RAW REDEMPTION Gets Book Club Attention

2010-06-07T18:06:00.000-05:00

My freshman novel, Raw Redemption, will be the book club, Book Escapades, July read. Thanks to a friend and diva sister, Carolyn Carroll, my book is moving on up in the world of fiction. Imagine that!

My Amazon kindle ebook, Tangled is also making headway. With 2 great reviews by respected writers and reviewers, I am expecting great things of this book too.

Giving myself and my marketing team and friends a huge ATTA GIRL!

The Capacity to Love

2010-06-07T08:48:00.000-05:00

At one point on this blog, I had a corner, so to speak, where I honored various wonderful women who'd touched my life, but in my busyness and distraction, I let it go. I always regretted that because there are so many who has contributed to this new me, this me that is now whole in Christ, that knows how to love other people, and this person that I love waking up looking at each day.

I am going to always glorify God for them and of course I do realize that it is God who has brought such awesome people into my life. Sure I know they are only human, they have flaws and all that, but I also know and understand that it's okay to be flawed. That just means they are connected to something grander, something more precious, more pure, more loving than many people ever encounter. It is the God nature of them that I mean to build up by shining a glowing light on that part.

We live many moons in which we are victimized, torn down, demolished by others and even ourselves. Why shouldn't I use a gift that I now know came from God when it is so obvious in my life? Can I tell you the truth? I've never met someone in which if I am around or look at them long enough wasn't beautiful to me in some way. I used to get ragged for it. I could see beauty in the ugliest of pictures and in the ugliest of situations. Even some of my worst enemies, using that term loosely, when I decide to be honest with myself, were once my friends and the anger I held against them was really grief over losing them because there's not been many that have crossed my path that I didn't want to love and be loved by, that I didn't want to hang on to. And God knowing my true nature that is sometimes so adequately hidden behind my tough exterior, knows that I am clingy, especially to those who I sense some urgency in me to just love them, sometimes has to move people for me if they are to be removed from my life.

You know, I said all of that to say these last few words- some of us are created to love and won't be happy unless we are loving and building people. We are the ones so easily damaged by rejection, so quick to want to hold a grudge because we feel the pain of others so intensely and when we feel it, we believe we have enough love in us to fix it. And when that love is turned aside, we aren't quite sure who to blame, we don't want to be hurt again, and so we try to stay upset. Well, today, I'm letting that me go and I am embracing my true self and my true calling which is celebrating others, even those who most wouldn't give a second glance. All the years of fighting it got me nowhere and it hurts just as badly to have the capacity to love and withhold it as it does to give it and have someone misuse it. Think on that.

Learning from a Puppy

2010-06-06T21:22:00.000-05:00

This new puppy of mine, Blake, is full of information for his mommy. No one warned me that a little fur baby isn't much different from a real baby. No one warned me how intelligent little puppy babies could be.

In the month that I've had him, I've learned to be more patient, to find joy in small happenings, and that God can speak using anything.

Little Blake is so small and so smart, but so confused trying to get used to all three of us in the house. He's trying new things, figuring out what works and my love for him says, give it time, he'll figure it out. God is the same way with us. He understands that this new life Christian is sometimes confusing, but given time, we will work it out with Him and that we'll get better. I'm sure I'll learn a lot more from the newest Hayes in the family. Stay tuned!

Run Away From Idolatry

2010-06-04T07:33:00.000-05:00

"Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry. I speak as to wise men (women); judge for yourselves what I say. " I Corinthians 10:14, 15
Lately I have been thinking about what an idol is and what it isn't. The dictionary defines an idol as anything that absorbs our thoughts and devotions. This has convicted me. Anything that absorbs our thoughts and devotions is an idol? Really? I can easily see the negative things in my life that could be an idol, but the hard part for me is the good things that can become an idol. I know that to hoard money and to dwell on my outward appearance can be idolatry and that things can definitely be idolatry; yet, I never thought that my work, my family or even what I do for God can become an idol if I'm not doing it for the right reasons. This past few week has found me being away from my computer, more out of necessity than desire and it made me realize that even something as enjoyable as my computer can become my idol. So I guess my challenge today is this: do you have an idol in your life? Even a small one can keep us from being what God wants us to be. We need to cling to Him and ask Him to help us run from idolatry.

Sick and Tired of What???

2010-06-02T06:55:00.001-05:00

There is really no need to lie. We all have times when giving up seems the easiest and frankly the most desirable option. We get sick and tired. Sick and tired of our jobs, of our friends, of our enemies, of church, of school, of our spouses and children and sometimes ourselves. We get sick and tired of being sick and tired... and THAT is the bottom of the barrel. LOL!

I can't tell you not to feel that way because we are all entitled to be human, since that's exactly what we are and will be anyway. The key is not to make any permanent decisions while in a disturbed or troubled state of mind. The trick is not to base tomorrow on the frustrations of today. Hard times will come to us all. So when you're at your wit's end, just know that you're in good company and weeping won't last forever. It can only endure for the night but every morning you rise, you have a new opportunity to be a new you with new joys.

Personal Note and Dedication to Me from Karina Fabian, a Very Special Author

2010-06-01T12:12:00.002-05:00

Thank you, LaCresha
By Karina Fabian

On May 15th, Tribute Books published a small book on Catholic spirituality and living, Why God Matters and How to Recognize Him in Daily Life, by Karina Lumbert Fabian and Deacon Steve Lumbert. This is my first non-fiction book, and my father's first book ever.

We would never have done this had it not been for LaCresha and her wonderful Yahoo! group, Write, Publish Market.

I joined WPM about a year ago because I was interested in finding new ways to market my books and to share with folks some of my marketing ideas and experience. I also like to pass on things I learn to other groups I'm in, like the Catholic Writers Guild.

A post by Nicole Langan entitled, "Looking for a Catholic Writer," caught my eye. Nicole was looking for an author to write a small book on short notice to fill a hole in their production schedule. I figured if I couldn't help, I knew plenty of Catholic writers who could.

Nicole knew exactly what she wanted, right down to format: personal stories about faith in the everyday, with some practical tips for readers, and Bible verses. The more we discussed the idea, the more I wanted to do it. Not only was the format similar to work I'd done for another publisher, it occurred to me that I could get my father to co-author with me, broadening the scope of the book and making for some fun father-daughter bonding.

Nicole had a tight deadline--one reason, I believe, that she posted her request on WPM, which has a hundreds of members who are actively seeking writing gigs. My father and I had a very intense, very fun week of IMing stories back and forth. It's the first time in a long time that we'd worked together on a project. My father's already eager to do another one!

In the end, this turned out to be more than a book contract--it was a chance for father and daughter to reconnect, and an opportunity for us to share our faith and our stories with others. I feel richer for having done this, but I also know that I never would have imagined taking on such a project on my own. It was Nicole's post on LaCresha's group that led me to this wonderful place.

Thank you, LaCresha. Though you never planned it, you have blessed our lives.