Prayer for Storm Victims

During these recent storms, many people lost loved ones, homes, jobs and even a whole hospital in Alabama was reported with total destruction. My heart goes out to them, and especially a close friend who lost her husband to an automobile accident due to a falling tree.


Times like these remind us that we are not invincible people. Nor are we sovereign masters over our own destinies. In fact, there are times when even the strongest of us are leveled and rendered completely helpless. We are forced to look on without the ability to change anything as "storms" tear our lives apart. But one thing we can be assured of is that storms don't last forever and at some point, the sun is going to definitely shine again. 


Know that my family and I are in prayer for and with you all. God bless you all!

Breakfast Menu

What's on the menu?

Pancakes, eggs, bacon and sausage with coffee and orange juice. Bible reading and morning encouragement. What do you do for your morning wake ups? Whatever it is, keep God as a major part of it, the center of it!

Sharing of The Body (We're Talking Sex)

I've always been shy about discussing my sexuality and certain things about my life as it pertains to my sexual experiences. I'm sure that sounds totally far-fetched when my claim to fame is my book written about the sexual abuse I've suffered in my life. (See my Rape of Innocence blog.) Nevertheless, it isn't the most comfortable topic in the world for me. However, I find myself wanting to share something with everyone today.


In the time I've spent preaching, 10 full years, a whole decade, I've encountered thousands of women. I've met and ministered to the bashful type, the prudish type and the bold, illicit ones. No matter where the women fell within those categories, there was always one question I got more than any other: "How does God expect us to honestly choose a mate before having sex?" Women, much like men, worry about sexual compatibility and chemistry. Many just can't see a marriage being happy or successful without those aspects being "right".


Well, I've been married three times. Never have I taken God's advice/commandment seriously. Marriage without at least a sample was far beyond my ability to comprehend too. I can't say the absolute emotional benefits of doing it God's way (though simple obedience should be reason enough), but I can tell you the dangers of doing it my way, our way. The biggest danger is marrying someone whom you may never legally marry. Sex continues to tie you to someone, and then someone else, and someone else and someone else. Pretty soon, you are so many people that you lose yourself. You become practically unable to be satisfied with any one man, no matter how great he may be, or any one woman no matter how great she may be. And I am absolutely convinced that our sexual escapades before marriage with whomever we had them with is a BIG factor in how soon we give up in our marriages once we get them.


Wrestling with one person can be tiring enough. The weight of wrestling with your spouse and all the other illegitimate marriages they bring in with them can be unbearable for anyone. Two people adjusting to one another and working to become one is difficult enough. When you multiply that number by the lovers each of them had, becoming one seems like an impossibility.


On the outskirts of my third marriage, I can 100 percent say that there is no such thing as harmless, casual sex. Speaking as a woman who has had more lovers than she would ever want to tell anyone, variety isn't the spice of life. Peace with God and the pleasure of one lover, no matter how inexperienced or mundane he/she may be, is the spice of life and is life itself. Bedroom skills can be taught/learned. Good is relative to the person doing the judging. So don't buy into the hype of a sex-crazed media. Be mindful of what you do with your body and who you share it with. You only get one!

Career Update

I spoke with an agent a short while ago. It seems she believes I'd be a great candidate for talk radio and wants to get me prepared for possible television talk shows. She truly is passionate about the message God has given me. That's priceless, a true and wonderful gift from God to show me that my work isn't done just yet. I love HIM y'all. And I am oh so humbled by the opportunities which continue to knock at the doors of my life.

Several other publishers, even though I have my own publishing house (Lanico Media House), have expressed interest in my idea of doing a 12 book series about strong female leads who champion certain virtues that are all but forgotten in this era and in popular media. The 12 books will focus on love, commitment, forgiveness, sobriety, celibacy, entrepreneurship, sacrifice, strength in illness, hope, faith, submission and humility. More details to be given as the plots are hashed out.


This year will see the release of several books, e-book and print and will set the pace for audio books which will be available next year. It's time to step it up. With the thousands of hits my website gets weekly, and the exponential increase of my popularity on social networks, I believe I want to position myself to be more proactive in my career.